need help

Hi Peter

Well done for coming on here and admitting to this addiction that has us all feeling hopeless at some point. Now that you have blocks be sure to give passwords to someone else so that you are not tempted to get around it. Also, self exclude from local bookies if you can.

You say you need to stop but you cant- well let me be the first to tell you that you can! All you need is the WANT to stop. Forget what you have lost before- treat this as your fresh start. I gambled most of my life until 53 days ago and although it is hard it is nowhere near as hard as dealing with that self loathing feeling you get from blowing a few hundred quid from the rent money (i did that all the time). I also have a great sense of freedom I never had while gambling and am starting to feel proud of myself and save a few pound each week which I could never have done before. Value of money goes out the window when you are compulsive gambling. Also, I realised that I was never going to win because I could never stop. I chant that saying to myself any time I get urges and then I know there is no point!

I hope you can turn this around now- be nice to yourself now and stop. Every day from today will make you feel so much better without gambling.

Keep posting and you will have a huge support network on this forum.

Linda

thanks linda. havent had a bet today. keep thinkin of what i did yesterday. really gonna try and stop. u doing well! i wanna have a few quid in my pocket an enjoy myself. have no friends as i never go out, usually wanna watch somin on tv that i bet on, or i have no money to go out with as i lost it all. not fair on my daughter either, keep saying i cant afford stuff, but im gambling. makes u feel cr**!

Well done on today- first week is by far the hardest because its like changing habits and trying to break the cycle.

I did the same thing and begrudge spending a pound on something that we didnt "need" and all because every penny spare was for my gambling problem. The worst thing is that even if i had a win (never a big one) I would look at it as credits for the next bets rather than ever doing anything real with it. I needed to make sure I had enough gambling credits to get me through the month and thats all I thought of. Now it seems hard to believe that I was so lost in a gambling coma that I couldnt really see what was happening to me until I stepped out of it.

Its such a great feeling after only a few weeks to not be on that rollercoaster anymore. I can make normal decisions now without having to account for my addiction and its like a freedom that I never had before. Really liberating. Anyway give yourself a good chance to see what its like without it and you will not want to go back.

Linda

hi. not bet since saturday. still gutted at what i did, however im determined not to bet. feel positive , great not being anxious of race results, or working out money i got etc.

kno i got a mess to sort out with bills, but if i not betting it will b easier to sort out!!

Hi rts

Glad to hear you are doing well and feeling positive. You should feel good because whatever happened before,you are doing the right thing now for you and your family.

Keep strong

Linda

borrowed some money today to pay rent, automatically thought lets go have a tenner on a horse, i said no! was in morrisons later an was gonna read ***** ****, i didnt read it

hope i can carry on.

cheers

linda

The first week was the hardest for me but once I started making the right decisions it became a little easier each day.

Believe in yourself. You are much stronger than any gambling urge!

Linda