Relapsed on online gaming

Hi my friend.

I understand you had left a door open for gambling and it has caught up with you, and now you regret the money you lost. It's gone, the money is gone. Please just let it go. You achieved 8 months of no gambling previously and that is a great achievement. It shows you can go strong again. You don't need gambling to make your life hell.

When you say in your post that you have found out you can play a game for real money, does that mean you normally play gambling games with fake money? Because if that is the case, then you are keeping the wires connecting your brain to gambling live and one way or another it will always be there making you vulnerable to relapse. My apologies if I have misunderstood it.

Also, you have mentioned that you are due to receive a big bonus and this is on top of a healthy bank balance. Please understand the fortunate position you are in, in comparison to many people in this world and just be happy with what you have, and are able to get paid, for what you have worked hard.

Take care and stay well.

Ergos 

Posted by: @waitingforthend

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Just had a major setback after gaining so much ground over the last 8 months. 

I signed up to GAMSTOP in December, which is great but foolishly went to the bookies on Friday to put a football accumulator on for the new season. I ended up playing slots and losing £200 before finding out I could play for real money on a game on my phone, where I ended up losing a further £400 over the weekend. 

I still have a healthy bank balance, where I no longer need to struggle, despite this blip and all the debt I am required to pay off monthly for my past failings. I’m due a big bonus at the end of this month and I can’t stop thinking about going to the casino to win this £600 back that I lost over the weekend. 

I’ve been here many time before and it could go either way. I try to reflect on how bad it has felt time and time again, and just want to focus this as blip that I can recover from but I can’t help thinking about winning the £600 back that I have just lost. 

So here is the worse scenario; you try to recover the loss, but you lose even more. So now it's  no longer -600, but -2000. 

Best case scenario: You win, but now you want to win even more. So you play until you lose it once again and the loss chasing begins.

You have live this experience before, we all have. Just let the 600 go and move on.

Couldn’t agree more with what’s been said, and I think deep down you know it to be true. The money is not yours anymore. The moment you gambled it was gone. No point thinking about it now. You lose more or you win. If you win, you may walk away, but tomorrow, or the day after you go back to win more. That’s when it begins again. Only one outcome.

You've done 8 months, then lost 600 in a session. That’s not normal behaviour. No normal person would give away 600. If a normal person dropped 600 they would devastated. They would search everywhere for it, but then admit, they were stupid and had lost it, they wouldn’t then think they could make it back somehow. Write it off, block the means of gambling and move on. Harsh but true.

Don’t let this one blip ruin 8 months of amazing work. Look back at why you quit. Remember those dark days of desperation and vow to never go back. 1 mistake but be stronger for it, not 1 mistake, back to square 1. 

Stay strong 💪