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Hi Gettingthere,

Just had a read through your diary and looks like you are doing great. It's incredible where gambling has led us however I guess we are moving in the right direction in that we are looking to make a recovery and deal with our debts. Something to work on and be proud of I guess. If someone had said to me 10 years ago that I'd be in the position I am in now I would have laughed at them, but here I am.

I have massive debts on credit cards and looking to be contacting Stepchange after Christmas so will keep an eye on your diary to see how you get on with them. How have they been to deal with so far?

I'm on day 21 so will be looking to stay 15 days behind you, and when I'm on 356 then I'll be reading your diary on day 371 where both of our debts are coming down the way. Stay gamble free and there's no reason why not.

Hi GT,

How are you getting on with Stepchange?

PA

Hi PA, thank you for your posts, much appreciated. I spoke with StepChange on Monday and they said they are well through setting up my plan so hoping it'll all be sorted before Christmas.

Well done on being gf, it's not easy but with the support of the good people on here, it makes it more bearable. I never, ever thought I'd make it to six weeks but that's where I am today! I don't even have an urge to gamble so I'm thankful!

Keep up the good work PA and look forward to hearing more about your recovery xx

GT x

Great to hear GT!

I posted on your other thread too but just to say well done on 6 weeks. I'm day 26 and have no urge to gamble either. Onwards and upwards eh.

PA

7 weeks today!!!!! Can't quite believe I've made it this far..... Struggling a bit today I have to be honest.....Don't know why though, because I'm the happiest now I've been in years and years. Not going to gamble though, have too much work to get done - if only I'd stop procrastinating!! 😀 😀

58 days gf. I'm in the best place now that I've been in a very, very long time and more determined than ever that I will stay gf forever!

Merry Christmas everyone and here's to a happy, prosperous and gamble free 2017!

GTxx

12 weeks today - major achievement.

My heads all over the place at the moment. My mum passed away on 5th January - I'm devastated! I miss her so much and I wanted her to be proud of me for being gamble free and getting myself sorted. I hope she was.....

2016 was a hard year but it ended on a real high - I had been gamble free for a couple of months and was in a new relationship with the kindest, most caring and loving man I have ever met. 2017 was going to be the best year so far.... I guess God wanted my Mum home with him.

Anyway, I've made it 18 days into 2017 without gambling and I'm more determined than ever to go the other 347 gamble free as well! I'm doing it for me, but I'm also going to do it for my Mum - I want her to be proud of me. I'm also not going to ruin the best thing that has ever happened to me - my relationship.

I don't know how often I'll come on here, sometimes I struggle with it, but just know that I'm doing fine.

Take care all and keep up the good fight

GT xx

Dear Getting There,

Great to see you back.

Congratulations on 12 weeks. That is a great acheivement.

I am so sorry to hear about your mother. No words of consolation will help you but try and take some solace in that she is no longer suffering. You say she was close to you in which case I am sure your progress was not lost on her and no doubt she would have been proud.

The start of 2017 has been unkind to you, however you still have the remainder of 2017 to look forward to you. You will not forget your mum for a long time but hopefully amidst the grief you are feeling right now you will be feeling some relief.

I really hope you can look forward positively. Remember your mum fondly, stay gamble free and develop that wonderful relationship you have with your new man. This is definitely what your mum would have wanted and so do we.

Take care of you and do let us know how you get on.

Markx

Hi, sorry for your loss and I am sure she was proud of you and even though you cannot see her I believe they are still with us in spirit. You did so well not to go back to gambling during this difficult time, keep it up and enjoy your new found life x best wishes x

Thanks Mark and Anon for your kind words and encouragement. I'm 'gettingthere', have my moments when I break down and cry but I guess that's to be expected and will probably continue for some time yet. However, I don't have any urge to gamble, in fact the total opposite - I can't be bothered and really don't want to!

91 days today - 13 whole weeks!

Hi GT,

Was thinking about you earlier funnily enough. I hadn't read about your mum, sorry to read this. I'm sure she would have been very proud of the progress you are making. And the fact you don't have any urges to gamble is great.

How did you get on with Stepchange, is your plan all sorted? I applied for my Debt Arrangement Scheme through CAB yesterday and creditors now have 21 days to reply. So everything is crossed.

PA x

Hi PA, good to hear from you.

My plan is all sorted and the first payment will be made next month so that is such a huge relief! It'll take me 4 years to pay off but that is much preferred to not knowing if I'd ever be debt free again! My counselling also starts next week so I'll see how that goes - I'm not very good at talking about feelings 🙂

I hope you get on ok with your DAS and I'll be thinking about and praying for you. Keep in touch and let me know how it all goes.

GTx