Abstain and maintain.Stepping forward never back.

Evening diary.

Had a good day today, took the hound for his nails clipped and he bit the lad who did them lol, glad to say he took it in his stride and carried on all be it whincing a bit, so look forward to 6 weeks time when we go back, then a bit of lunch with sarah and lily then home to enjoy some sport on tv! It came in the form of "cool runnings" lol love the bobsleigh!!! Seriously I used to waste every saturday pacing and praying, today total relaxation.

And because just for today NO BET

Duncs stepping forward never back

Now going to tuck into tony parsons latest offering, whilst the girls watch x factor and the boys play x box.

Shall enjoy motd later if my eyes let me lol

Well done dunc - 35 weeks is fantastic! Much admiration.

Morning Dunc,

I wanted to add my own congratulations on reaching 35 weeks. A fantastic achievement and proof of what can be achieved with real focus and determination.

Thanks for your message. It made me laugh outloud!! Still no news. We obviously have a very laid back baby who will come out in their own time!

Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

Best wishes

Dave

Afternoon diary. Well my fellow gamcarers today to my delight I logged on this morning to see I had a post from a fella who was instrumental in making me look at recovery in depth in the early days that I today marking 250 days without a bet give much thanks from deep within to him and many others to say today I feel I am living in harmony with my addiction, "abstain and maintain" (thanks smiler now that statement is making it's way onto my soon to be sleeve tattoo) today I know gambling is a huge industry, just look watching motd how many premier clubs have them as sponsors, but for the greater good I could let it affect me, but ultimately I know I have a choice and just for today I choose NO BET.

I have today enjoyed housework, family breakfast, watched the parks football with my sons and put a curry on to cook all day.shortly we will walk the dog over the *** then home to watch the last of the cycling and enjoy my observer and it's food magazine.

Why ??? Well because I made the choice, could have as countless times before turned left at the conclusion of the parks football and joined the others in the bookies chasing another pipe dream, no thanks.just for today I see a light I like the look of.

Hope my esteemed friend hangs about to enjoy the warmth and comforts on offer.

Duncs stepping forward never back.no bet 250 days.

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Congratulations Dunc 250days is a testament to your determination, you are showing how it can be done.

I'm a firm believer in karma dunc. I can see how much effort you've put into helping yourself and others cope with the addiction. It lifts my spirit to witness your successes. Thanks.

Dunc.

Can i add my congratulations on reaching 250 days.

You were there for me at the start and i thank you for that.

Your support and advice has been fantastic.

Many thanks once again.

Best wishes to you and yours,

gazza

hey Duncs,.....two hundred and fifteeeeeee....in my best Bully voice..

well done my friend...gosh how time has gone.

I did get your post and to quote James Brown im gonna get on the "good foot"...and the front foot charging ahead and getting in a stronger position so the "back foot" can be put to sleep for a while...

"At ease men"..LOL

Another day in the bag and your right I am getting through this quite quickly considering all the change.

Averted cynicsm and biiterness and still take folk on face value (just) as i was afraid of becoming very "hard to get to know"...

Not my style as im way too chatty.

So in the words of Tumbawumba'.."I get knocked down but I get up again!".....reincarnated roadkill...good name for a band that.

ONWARDS.....

never back

R and D xxx

Afternoon Gamcarers,

Well went for my job interview and contracts all being good I will commence on the 1st october, to which suits tying up the loose ends of the consultancy stuff (shiny I could never do it full time love the stove too much).

I have spent a huge amount of time in the past couple of days reading many diaries start to end, some old sadly too many new!! I wondered if the football season co-insided with an influx of new members?? as I was still at it last year I dont know. Which subconsiously I think is why I have given a large amount of time to the forum, this time last year I hit somewhat of a purple patch and struggled to pick a loser!! then as usual I converted all horse/football winnings into the fobt tokens we are all so familiar with!! promptly doing more than I ever won!! and the cycle of gambling to cover all loses and further devistation unsued till the rock bottom which came this january gone.

Today I feel a resolve to take the stick I have grafted stronger by the day and stand tall to show the many newbies there is a light,I know a long way off but it's there,my advice (well smilers!!) be kind to yourself and just for today make a choice to say NO BET, tomorrow well deal with that when it comes. I dont any longer have the urge to gamble to forefill my dreams, I have the urge not to punt therefore I stand a chance of forefilling those dreams. Today I put things unobtainable aside and take comfort in the things I have.

Sarah and I will soon move into our 21st year of being together and at 38 I feel a huge sense of pride in achieving this, I know our relationship has been through many dark days and I accept I can't change those,but 251 reasons today i know of and all in the company of my best friend my pulse , folks I can change the future I have a choice and a huge amount to live for and for that I will charge forward, invigourated by the forum and what recovery delivers, many not financial,time and honesty at the forefront of todays agenda.

Duncs compulsive gambler Stepping forward never back.

Just for today NO BET.

hey La famillie Duncs

yay! come on Oct 1st...Im on the 9th xx

21 eh..youve got the key of the door ..never been 21 before ...so teen sweets since 18?..is my maths right?

I think fantastic....and you have a lot to celebrate Duncs..you ARE both winners..you and Sarah..a fab and potentially famous family..(already love your poet son) and so much to say ."YES..we did it" and firm foundations...

Get Beckham and Posh out as role model family....Get Sarah and Duncs in..YAY!! ....

50 shades of pink...and thats the champers...

R and D xx

ps,...feel free to use that "50 shades of pink" on an" A" board or blackboard...can't bag it on my own but did see that on a very upmarket cheshire polo set winery establishment advertising champers.....lol

R and D xx

Pps. one of my pals just started an exclusive underwear company for ladies...she going to run an ad..."50 shades of grey ?"(underwear).....Not any more.xx

Morning diary.

so today marks 36 weeks gamble free, a time of which I have truly learnt some amazing things and all be it virtually met some truly amazing people from both sides of the fence. the humility shown and the want to help others never ceases to amaze me and to this I say whenever I feel the urge to self implode, to devistate my life and the others around me, I know I can log on the forum and dissolve those feelings through reading, posting.

the sense of belonging to something special is amazing and that as a gambler was something that I never had, the life of a compulsive gambler has for me no friends,many sides,many faces but all faceless and yes it will befriend you,only to rip up your lifes work and dreams and to become your master.

Well today I feel I have further harnessed my addiction, taken its shackles I wore and wrapped it up tight, I would love to squeeze every last vestage from it and leave it lifeless, but that I know I cannot do, as said so many times I know i am one bet from ruin, strangly a feeling that comforts me.

Life for me is happy and "Abstain and maintain" I will.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Just for today NO BET.

Hi Duncs,

I can see you way up there. You are not only flying you are doing loop-dee-loops! Masterful!! -joanxx

Hi Duncan,

Well done on 36 wks gamble free that is a gr8 achievement 🙂

I like reading ur posts, they r full of positivity!

I am proud of u 🙂

Have a gr8 nite 🙂