Over a year ago I got in a terrible mess with debt through fobts I came clean to my wife, and she was so upset I couldn, t bear to see that look on her face again, I received counselling through gamcare and this I would recommend to all gambling addicts just try it !!! I was doing relly well self excluded from my local bookies and managed to walk past all the others, buy 5 weeks ago I went on the sick from work and yes!!!!....iwalked through a bookies door...I felt guilty and anxious when I slipped 20 into the fobt and you guessed iwon 120 and walked away next day won 90 walked away I didnt feel like an addict(I can control it!!!!!) To cut to the chase 5 wks later I am now over 2,500 in debt and back to square one...im so low and its so hard to hide from my wife but at least I have not bet for 2 daysand I know the funds are there(debt money though) ive arranged to get counselling now the sooner the better, im now 49 and don,t want to continue the rest of my life as a deceitful, lying self obsessed compulsive gambler....we all know fobts were sneaked into betting shops bring back the days of 9to5 bookies, closed sundays, no online gambling, previous goverments blacked out windows and bookies were not nice places now they are "fun and friendly enviorements" not for us and thousands of others..........
Hiya sickas, you have done the right thing coming on here. Its good to hear you have arranged counselling, I hope that helps you out. I think you should come clean to your wife and hand her total control of your finances. Without money you won't be able to gamble. My mum now looks after my finances and its been a huge help, without it I reckon I could have slipped up by now. I remember many dark days feeling like you do now, but there can be a better future for you. If its the last money you ever lose in a bookies then its money well spent! Learn from this and take advantage of the people on here who can help you. I would also recommend the 2014 challenge in the overcoming problem gambling section.
Look forward to hearing more positive reports from you in the future.
Thanks for your sound advice !realise I have learned a lot by losing that money and I have to use it to my advantage seeing a counsellor monday im so glad I don,t have to wait long, im not going to tell my wife I know you said I should, but I I had a heart to heart with my mother and she agrees im so sure I can beat this.....because I want it so much! interested to your gambling story?thanks born again.......
Hiya Sickas at least you have your mother to speak to. If your missus can't take control of your money then could you ask your mum?
My story is that I am a compulsive gambler, been gambling since 16 and I'm now 34. I am approaching 200 days free from gambling, but its been a struggle and life never seems to get any easier. My poison was horses and dogs in a bookmakers. I would get a months wage and blow it on pay day. I have lead a pretty bleak life, lost all my friends and hurt most people who have ever cared about me. I have had a few sporadic periods where I have stopped for a few weeks, but have always slipped up in the end. The difference for me this time is that I have handed control of my finances to my mum and this has made a huge difference. I have also found enormous support and help from being part of the 2014 challenge on here, I recommend you join it.
Have a good weekend and try to put as many barriers in place to help you and prevent you from slipping up again.
Well its sunday evening and im bet free!!!!! Went to see relations and it made me see what money can do for you!when you gamble you dont do things either because youve lostany money youve got, or spending it on other stuff drains your "betting pool"
And as a cg all cash is just betting tokens..enough is enough im sick of it, I want to live my life and spending time with friends and family is more important,its not just money thats lost as well as putting blocks in place you should also make the effort to catch upwith people instead of wasting valuable hours gambling and time spent thinking about it.....another note stopped at 4 motorway services, everyone had fruit machines(not my vice) and one even had abookies....is there no getting away from these people..anyway how you doin born again? Hope you,ve kept your resolve! keep strong mate......
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