Day 3 and counting.....

Hey Phil,

Was nice catching up in a chat, very well done for keeping going, you are heading to a big 40 ( if i'm right :)) Glad things improving at home too.

Keep them coming, and keep strong!

Have a lovely weekend

Sandra

Hey Phil

really sorry to hear that things have been difficult at home- sounds like your wife has still got a lot of stuff that she needs to process, but that's only normal and natural isn't it.

You are doing really well and making great progress on your recovery journey- keep hanging in their my friend, the journey is worth it. 'Non gambling Phil' is a good person to know.

take care

Stu

Phil.

fella sorry to read your having a hard time still, but from it take great heart in the fact your resolve keeps growing.

I try to see things objectively and I believe that many partners do want to be a part of recovery but don't want to be hurt. The lies we tell whilst gambling must have caused a great deal of damage and will take time to heal, our partners/ family are in recovery too and when they see us deviate in our recovery paths they must think

"here we go again"

i believe it's a self protection tool.

My advice put it on the table, those feelings you have, we all have to have an outlet to release pressure in.

and to boot you are doing something amazing, your hard work will be rewarded, one day at a time my friend.

keep rewarding you and yours with a choice to better your tomorrow.

in time i hope your wife will see how much effort you put in to recovery.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thanks Stu, Duncs and Sandra, I know what you all say is true, but it is still difficult to see that when you are living it. She has calmed down an awful lot and even said sorry, but still finds time to almost criticise almost everything I do without praising the positives in my life, in the main case she doesn't even want to know about. It is a long process and I am in for the long haul.

Anyway enough of that again, urges around in some shape or form but doing well to dismiss quite well, the majority of time I think it is my guard slipping when I feel low from events at home, but dealing with that. Day 37 now I think which is great, over 5 weeks, and it is still very much a daily process.

Have a great Sunday everyone, and stay strong.

Phil

Hi Phil

Sorry to hear things are still difficult at home. I think you're right- your wife doesn't fully understand the changes you've made and how hard you've worked- she only has her own experience of your gambling. I'm sure time and patience will be evidence to her that the changes are permanent. Would she consider using this forum (friends and family)? It may help her to adjust to your changes.

Anyhow, a great big well done on the progress. Keep doing what your doing!!!!

Take care

Irene

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Hey Phil,

Thank you very much for the post, and hope you are having good day. Hopefully things is picking up at home too.

Well done for staying strong and tackling each day with more determination to set yourself free from that destroying disease, hope it's getting easier and you seeing things more clearer.

Best wishes and keep going

Sandra

Hi Phil

Have things calmed down at home yet?

Hope you are doing ok

Lisa 🙂

Day 39.......thanks as always to all the support over the last couple of days, and yes Lisa, things have improved, but looks as though I will have to go without a drink. Not too bothered about that in all fairness, as I always dont feel particularly great afterwards and there are plenty of other things to fill my life.

Spent some nice quality time with my daughter cooking over the weekend, and my wife is a lot calmer, although small things do tend to push her over the edge - a passport scam being the latest!!

Urges do still happen, and stronger when I have means to do something, but I will remain strong.

keep well everyone and enjoy the rest of the day.

Phil

hmmmmm........

biggest urge in the world, had a real battle, left office with intention of putting bet on the tennis. Thankfully, stopped myself, wow that was hard.

Feel guilty for letting the urge get as strong as it did, boredom and some cash in the pocket were both a factor. But should be proud of fighting.

God this is hard

Phil

Well done Phil

Stay strong, it is hard but you can do it

Take Care

Lisa 🙂

Hey my friend:-)

What are you playing at? I know Phil, today for some reason not the best one for me either. Trying to keep myself busy more than ever. Maybe gloomy weather is not playing the best part in the way i feel.

Well done for resisting, you doing great, and i know you can find strength in yourself, you did very well so far keep it coming!

All the best

Sandra

hello diary, so another mini milestone with day 40 up.....we almost weren't there, but very proud of my fighting spirit.

I mentioned to a few people on the chat yesterday, that it was my relationships with people on the forum and chat that really pulled me past the urge, so thanks again to everyone. However, the episode is a stark reminder of keeping up the hard work and focus and avoid complacency....as I have said before zero tolerance!!

hope you are all well and have a great day

Phil

Phil,

Fella well done for reasching the 40 days gamble free marker, those urges will come from time to time, you did the right thing fella, ran straight at it!!

Get them out in the open to deal with them, addiction loves to make us devious and sneaky, by confronting them in the open, they become that bit weaker.

Fella be proud, you did something amazing.

I salute you.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Hello Phil

Well done on reaching 40 days and fighting off the urges from yesterday. Keep using the forum and chat and putting everything out there as it helps so much. Like you said it can get hard but its worth it so much when you ride out that urge and the black cloud evaporates and you start to see things how they really are.

Keep going.

Rob

hey Phil

well done on your 40 days- BRILLIANT. And well done for resisiting the urges- its not easy is it but its so worth it. Thanks for your kind post on my diary- it has been a privilege to get to know you a bit through the chat. Keep going. Every day a new start, a new battle; another victory for you and your lovely family.

Take care

Stu