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Hi Ade,

Cognitive behavioural therapy

Rational behaviour therapy

Both pretty similar. Basically teaching you to question your response to your emotions rather than make knee j**k decisions based upon them.

Dan

Hi Ade,

Pushing you up to the front page lol, 98'days today my friend well done

Keep strong.

Suzanne xxx

Thanks all for your support.

14 weeks or 98 days for me today.

Keeping strong and feeling great.

Ade

Evening Ade, two days till the treble....onwards and upwards..I'm not much of a scrabbler, but can I place... ing..on your stay to make staying..have a great evening mate...Ginger

Thanks for the post Ginge.

99 days down and to be honest I feel as though I have turned myself around at long last. Gambling, or the desire/urge to gamble has just not been there for me recently. I am focused on the important things in my life once again, without the shadow of gambling in my life. No more hangover type feelings in the morning, after a night of chasing lost bets. No more anxiety caused by juggling my finances to cover my gambling tracks. No more making excuses to go out and gamble. No more coming home and shouting at the kids for trivial things, knowing that I am moody because I have just gambled and lost. No more lunchtime wasted by lonely trips to bet on S***e in the bookies. No more deleting history on my laptop to cover my tracks for on-line betting. All in all I am just so detached from that imposter that walked in my size 10 and a half shoes, that it heartens me to feel this good. My self worth, has more than returned, along with my sense of humour, that was for so long suppressed by always feeling stressed.

I am now living, rather than existing. There is a big difference. A hell of a difference in fact. My concentration and commitment at work has improved. My social skills have also been returning, because it's amazing just how I lost the ability to socialise when I was trapped in my gambling bubble.

I hope this feeling continues well into my next 100 days and beyond.....

Thanks again to everyone on here that has posted me support.

Keep strong all

Ade

Hi ade.

Just wanted to say well done and it's always good to see other forum members making good and positive changes in their life.

And I think sometimes we all need to be reminded just to keep doing it one day at a time. Sometimes we look too far ahead in making any life changes It will seem too much.

But your post seem like you totally understand that and are right on the nose!

Ade that's a great post fella, you made me smile with the gambling hangover reference....they are sure worse than any alcohol related one.

Being in control is a wonderful thing, and staying that way is even better, looking back we now realise what a millstone gambling was around our necks...have a great night with your golf balls...it's a full house tonight at mine all my golf ball paying a visit..happy days all round.. onwards And upwards...Ginger.

Hi Ade,

Just came by to say hi 🙂 keep up the good work and happy 100 tomorrow! You're more than worth it!

A Mayonnaise Jar and Two Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 beers story.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked his students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook it lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the gold balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.В 
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous ‘yes'. 
The professor then produced 2 beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space. The students laughed. ‘Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognise that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favourite passions - and if everything else was lost and they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else - the small stuff.'

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, ‘there is no room left for the pebbles or golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit your grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposals. Take care of the golf balls first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities ... The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and enquired what the beer represented ...

The professor smiled and said, ‘I'm glad you asked. The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there is always room for a couple of beers with a friend.'

Sandra x

I am now living rather than existing, great post Ade, you have said it in one, why not to gamble.

Stay strong and keep looking after your golf balls, because there is no hangover what so ever with recovery and abstaining.

Suzanne xxx

Thanks Jenilee, Ginge, Sandra and Suzanne for your kind posts.

Thought I'd update my profile pic of me and my eldest golf ball from a happy summer holiday back in August. It pretty much sums up how I am feeling right now......

Keep strong all

Ade ;0)

There you go Ade, pic says it all keep looking after you and your golfballs, it's the way forwards and upwards

Suzanne xxx

Thanks Ade,

I can tell just by reading your post you are on a totally different level now, and I am sooo pleased for you, but keep those blocks and barriers in place, because it can suddenly hit you out of the blue, but I know you are strong enough now to just tell them to get lost, keep one step ahead the addiction has not finished yet.as you know.

Take care

Suzanne xxx

Thanks xxxx proud of you for turning stuff around xxx

Well done Ade on getting to 99 and see you at 100 tomorrow

Cheers for the post mate. Was actually talking about that movie the other day. Think that was our decades answer to 50 shades of grey. I was infatuated with KB after that movie. Well big day for you tomorrow. Will try and post congratulations tomorrow but working a 13 hour shift tomorrow so might not get time. If that is the case congratulations from me and i hope you get your telegram from our lizzie.