For myself and my family

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So.. lets do this, going to keep this diary up, hopefully will be able to make daily entries for a while.

I don't want to ruin my life anymore and I definately don't want to ruin the life of my family.

I've made a plan how to repay all the debts I made (it will take me a year)

I will not touch any of the savings we have (i want to buy a house with that money)

I will enjoy life one day at a time gamblefree (i rather take on another job then try to win money)

Today i'm reading my little angel a bedtime story (as usuall thru facetime), can't wait to have her living with me again.

 
Posted : 16th July 2017 8:16 pm
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Woke up super tired today, not really looking forward to work, going to the gym afterwards

 
Posted : 17th July 2017 7:24 am
Raj
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Hope you continue with the gym..I'm starting again as will be a great stress reliever

 
Posted : 17th July 2017 7:21 pm
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Yeah going swimming in the morning, its great... loosing different sort of pounds this time 😀

 
Posted : 17th July 2017 8:12 pm
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Change of plan - swimming in the afternoon, dont like mornings that much 🙂

Really want to like mornings..

 
Posted : 18th July 2017 7:28 am
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This will be really really hard....I need to focus

 
Posted : 18th July 2017 7:22 pm
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It will be long & tough 10 days waiting to get paid... with only small amount of cash available.... maxed out credit card almost maxed out overdraft, but rather then going for a payday loan I will soldier on for the few days.... dont want to have more debt.... the 25k or so is enough.... makes me sick

 
Posted : 18th July 2017 10:30 pm
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Good luck.

The gym/swimming is definitely a great idea. When I stopped last year I found that excersize really helped. Also I made a diet plan and would plan everything out and count calories etc. It gave me something to keep busy and become obsessed with. Also the excersize would better my mood.

I see you may have struggled today? What were your biggest obstacles if you dont mind me asking? I am only on day 1 myself.

 
Posted : 18th July 2017 10:35 pm
Matt 24
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Hi Lasttime

Draw a line on the debt, what's done is done. Get your head round repaying it (which you seem to have done). There is no quick fix but in ten days when you get paid, the first stage will have been achieved. Every day we don't bet we are a day richer in all sense.

Good luck mate

Matt

 
Posted : 19th July 2017 3:27 pm
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Hi Matt, yeah I keep saying that to myself, but I also remember how easy it can be to get the money back. As I was deleting emails and selfexcluding myself from all the sites it was crazy to see canceled withdrawals for 16k on one site, for 8k on another, 6k on another, 3k on another.... if I didnt cancel any of those I would be debt free now and still have plenty in the bank. Not as much as I should have but better then being 25k in the hole... but I dont want to chase it.. I really dont.. I want to stay strong.

I dont want to gamble ever again, but I really am worried I will, I'm worried I will increase the debt etc.

We have some savings with my wife, expensive cars etc. we dont live together for different reason but are still married and were actually thinking of moving in together again (they live in different country now, i fly there regulary or they come here) so my daughter can spend more time with me.

My wife does not know about my recent gambling and about this debt now. I want to tell her but dont want to... but what I am actually thinking about is divorcing her - to protect her and my daughter, so any debt, any stupid think I do going forward does not affect them. I want them to keep everything we have. I want to get out of this mess myself - I feel like I have to do it on my own, and then maybe who knows get back together and start fresh.

It will take me a good 8-12 months to pay off the 25k I owe whilst still sending 500 to my wife every month. It is scary thought that I will not be debt free for another 12 months - it would mean no real income for the last 2 years so basically working for nothing...

I really dont know what to do, but I have to take it one day at a time I guess. I am extremely lucky to have a great job, I guess I need to find some possitives in all of this... its tough...

 
Posted : 19th July 2017 3:43 pm
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Went swimming today after work, feel tired but great... strange.. well payday next friday....

 
Posted : 20th July 2017 5:45 pm
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I feel so tired today... but going to make this another gf day... keep them comming!

 
Posted : 21st July 2017 8:23 am
Matt 24
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Hi Lasttime, you are very fortunate indeed to have the opportunity to be debt free in maybe a year.

I am only wondering, do you think not having your wife and child near may have something to do with why you gamble, maybe filling a void in your life where they aren't there as much as you would like?

I am pleased to read your gamble free days are piling up now. Keep going and stay strong!

Matt

 
Posted : 21st July 2017 10:13 am
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Yeah more freedom without them here definatelly leads to gambling... but I will beat this on my own...

 
Posted : 21st July 2017 8:43 pm
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Had a good weekend, relaxing, went swimming again, the only problem is that the weekend is so short! 🙂 well hopefully next weekend will be at least this good.

 
Posted : 23rd July 2017 11:40 am
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