My Diary

Hi DH

Welcome to this forum and a very well done on your first 5 days of abstinence. It will be hard at times, especially in the first days/weeks but what will be even harder is if you get deeper and deeper into debt due to gambling.

Good luck and take care.

Feb.

Well I am at Day 7 now. A full week without gambling and it feels like a great achievement where as it might seem insignificant to others.

Felt a bit low today. As you are aware , Valentines Day is coming up and I feel cr** because (due to financial problems) I wont be able to afford to buy something for my girlfriend or at least take her out somewhere.

The reason it makes me feel so crappy is that even though I have spoke to her about it and she has said it doesn't matter about that and that she understands why.

OK she might say it doesn't matter to her , it really still makes me feel cr**. I know that fancy meals and buying exuberant presents doesn't equal happiness but I still like to do things like that as I would normally.

7 Days without gambling 🙂

Hi there. Don't feel cr**. Take the positives from it. Your action along with time will solve your feeling of inadequacy. Your girl will be so proud of you but best of all, your own self worth will go through the roof. Stick with it. It does get easier. Take care. AN.

Hi DH, and massive congrats on your 7 days and for posting. IT IS A BIG ACHIEVEMENT, so please don't put yourself down. From your post, it seems, that unlike a lot of people here, you have also taken the very brave step of telling your partner.

Having admitted to yourself that you have a problem, and seeking help is probably the best valentine present she could possibly have.

A few other ideas have sprung to mind that would be incredibly thoughtful of you and cost nothing, or very little. So here goes from a woman's point of view...

1. Write her a letter straight from the heart, just tell her what she means to you and how much you value her and her support. If you don't cry when you write it, then it's not good enough! Hope you see what I'm getting at?

2. Cook her favourite meal. It doesn't matter if it's a pot noodle, a bacon sandwich, or a fillet steak. Do what you can afford, or whatever she really likes best.

3. Where did you first meet? Take a walk there with her and re-live the moment. That's pretty special, if you can do it. Even better, go there and then give her the letter.

4. Do you have a great photo of you both that you could frame really cheaply?

Gifts are what you make them, not how much you,can afford.

Congrats again on your 7'days and keep strong.

Please pat yourself on the back,

Best wishes,

Louise

Day 61 without gambling and I have had some crazy stuff happen since the last post.

Biggest thing being my girlfriend has found out that she is pregnant.

Not sure if I am going to be a good father , especially if I can't even look after myself without having a gambling addiction or getting myself into debt. It is more incentive not to gamble though and I am still going strong.

Fair play to you and congratulations mate,

I'm only on day 3 at the moment but feeling positive,

I have a 3 year old mate and felt like I let him and the girlfriend down al the time, they don't no about my gambling at the moment, I've managed to keep my habit going buy doing extra hours at work, where as I should be doing Extra hours to go on weekends away and holidays, stay strong and hope all goes well,

Andy

Fair play to you and congratulations mate,

I'm only on day 3 at the moment but feeling positive,

I have a 3 year old mate and felt like I let him and the girlfriend down al the time, they don't no about my gambling at the moment, I've managed to keep my habit going buy doing extra hours at work, where as I should be doing Extra hours to go on weekends away and holidays, stay strong and hope all goes well,

Andy