My life with addiction

Nice one! Keep them years coming Dan - JFT stay safe ☺

Nice one Dan x

Shame you didn't wait 2 days for your rebirth and cemented your otherworldly status 😉

great going Dan and congratulations

Louis

Thanks guys & gals. Its actually Monday. But thoughts appreciated anyway

Congratulations Dan 10 years and 3 leap days.

It's no fluke that you have hit that magnificent milestone, lots of effort, honesty and commitment have gone into it, congratulations bud.

Stunned. 10 years is amazing. Your achievement should be inspiring to everyone.

Nice one Dan (again) x

Im often struck by peoples lack of authenticity. On here, in the rooms & in everyday life. An overwhelming desire to create abstract versions of themselves that have no correlation with who they really are or how they really feel.

Sure fire way to create a chaotic mind that cannot distinguish between the truth & what is fiction.
Being an addict i know my mind works this way. Looking to garnish validation from others rather than take the risk that the real me may be rejected or deemed not good enough.

Its easy for me to tell others what they should do rather than do what i should. To point out their misdeameanors & ignore my own.Point the finger outwardly instead of inwardly.

The true test of someones character is when no one is watching. When there is nothing to be gained & when there is no desire to boast.

Let me stand by my actions & not my words. Let me be judged on what i do for others & not for myself & let me not take others moral inventories for them.

The truth is a double edged sword. You will cut yourself deeply if you ignore your own in favour of telling everyone else what theirs should be.

Be authentic, be true to oneself & give without reward. Be the same person behind closed doors as you are in front of the crowd. The only persons judgement you need to satisfy is your own. Make yourself proud of who you truely are.

Another fine post there Dan....

It all made sense, but especially the last paragraph!! I've had and still experiencing a very nice yet bizarre moment in this past week or so with a character colleague I've just met, I pretty much new instantly that I liked him, his humour, calmness. factual professionalism and within a few days I was telling him stuff about my addictions, my life etc. As we walked to work one day joking away, he stopped and said something word for word what you just said in that paragraph.

My new contract is also bizarre and despite still getting my same rate, it's a badly managed job which has been made hard. My eyes and head are clear, but there's also someone winding me up with which I downloaded on my diary Monday morning, I had two fine ladies come with there support but I know through myself, new colleague that really it was my issue, stay focused, factual and do my best as I kept my side clean... I'm managing it ok, but I know this is where I am and what I need to work on! Just me, simple as.

A ramble there as that post threw me ....

“You may have flaws, live anxiously, and sometimes get angry, but never forget that your life is the biggest company in the world. And you can keep it from going bankrupt.
There are many people who need, admire and cheer for you.
I wish that you always remember that being happy is not having a sky without storms, paths without accidents, work without fatigue, relationships without disappointments.
Being happy is finding strength in forgiveness, hope in battles, security in fear, love in disagreements.
Being happy is not only appreciating the smiles but reflecting on the sadness.
It is not just celebrating the success, but also learning lessons in failures.
Not only having joy in applause but finding joy in anonymity.
Being happy is recognizing that life is worth living, despite all the challenges, misunderstandings and periods of crisis.
Being happy is no longer being a victim of the problems and becoming an author of history itself. It is crossing deserts outside of yourself, but being able to find an oasis in the secret of your soul.
It is thanking God every morning for the miracle of life.
Being happy is not being afraid of your own feelings. It's knowing how to talk to yourself.
It's the courage to hear a “No” and be confident enough to receive criticism, although sometimes untrue.
Being happy is to let the child living within us to live free, happy and simple.
It is having the needed maturity to say “I was wrong”.
It is having the essential courage to say “forgive me”.
It is having the indispensable sensibility to say “I need you”.
It is being able to say “I love you”.
It is having the humility of receptivity.
I want life to be a hotbed of opportunities and that you be happy. And when you go astray, start again. This way, you will find that being happy is not having a perfect life, but using tears to irrigate tolerance. Using losses to refine patience.
Using failures to reach prayer.
Using obstacles to open the windows of intelligence.
Never give up hope.
Never give up the people you love.
Never give up on being happy, because life is a no-miss obstacle, even if it gives you dozens of reasons to demonstrate the contrary.

Stones on the way? I keep them all … One day I'll build a castle!”
- Fernando Pessoa

I enjoyed reading the post so no stones on the way from me!

Thank you Dan for such a timely post as I struggle (maybe for the 1st in my life) to process the latest atrocity.

Thank you for sharing this Dan....pulled all the heart strings possible.

Keep holding on Kels ((((K))))

Hi I have a mental illness and depression and been off work and I'm not sure why I gamble. I'm not sure what I should do and if the casino will look at reimburse me. My doctors have signed me off as ill and I need help not sure what to do

Step 9 promises - it's the destination.

"If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.

We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.

No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear.

We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.

Self-seeking will slip away.

Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.

Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.

We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us—sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them."