New me? Right?

It's getting worse....I've fought the urge for almost a day X 

Hi Boolooser56

I am sorry to read that you are struggling so much with the urge to gamble.  You recognise that your trigger is an emotional situation at work, and are able to see the link between this and the urge.  I am glad to read however that so far you have resisted the temptation to act on the urge - the more you do this, the more evidence you'll have of your resilience.  

Although it is difficult, please don't be alone with this and keep posting on the forum.  If you need to chat about things please do contact us either on live chat or our free HelpLine 0808 8020 133.  We can offer practical advice and emotional support, and free treatment if this would be suitable.  

Kind regards,

Leigh, Forum Admin 

The proverbial wave has subsided.  I'm sure there any many to come yet. soon 25 days gf will be 25 months then 25 years.  I'm so determined to beat this c**P XX 

Hi

In my recovery I found that my steel got more and tested the more I healed and the more productive I became.

Using the telephone was useful and also meetings after meetings help me understand more about how to find emotional resolve.

The recovery meetings often caused more questions than answers, so talking after meetings really helped me.

The important thing to learn is that as I heal more and more and the more solutions I find it is just done on day by day basis.

Once I was healing from the pains those very same healing pains became my strength.

Understanding my emotional triggers were important for me.

I understand that my unhealthy reactions to people life and situations is my responsibility.

The only person I can change in the world is myself.

Just for today I will not gamble means I value myself more today, it is a boundary I set for myself, I am not willing to hurt myself or others today.

Just for today I will NOT gamble changes to just for today I will over come my procrastination.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Your friend is wise 🙂

Thank you 

Hey

I stopped gambling on 10th of June.  Out if ten years I got to day 30 and was having a bad day.  Old ways whispered in my ear and went into there.  I managed to win enough by  some miracle and walked out.  I just can't believe I was stupid enough to go back.  After everything I've researched about how they operate and steal our money im a stupid idiot.  Do I start off as day one again or just write it off as a silly slip up and carry on 🙁 feeling disgusted with myself and ashamed.  

Boo boo :

If you have gone back once and won, you will return again. Unfortunately, from my experience you never stop on a win as you don't see it as being an issue because you haven't been financially damaged and see it as being okay to do. It takes a bad beat for you to realise what you are doing is wrong so I suggest you start again and get yourself in a chat room or meeting as soon as possible.

Hi boo

I'm in the same boat as you, I went over 4 weeks without going in the bookies or even wanting to go in but 2 weeks ago I found myself in front of a fobt machine and still don't know why I ended up there again. 

I put in XX and would have lost it all like I usually do but somehow managed to get up to XX so left with that but I felt really awful that I had been back in so I give the winnings away to my sister cos I just didn't want it. 

I think one good thing that we can take out of it is that we both felt terrible after betting again so hopefully that's a good sign

Good luck mate 

Hi all

It got me today.  Back to square one.  Back to day one. All the savings I had gone again.  I'm so angry with myself.  If I only I had the brain to stay away.  

Back to day 1! ????

Be strong pal, it’s a lot easier said than done. You’ll get through it again. 

I quit on June 10th but had several relapses.  

I just can't seem to kick it.  I stopped for a month, my wallet was looking bigger, I was on road to recovery after ten years of loosing.

I made a choice to quit (again)  last week after a monumental loss.  Why am I so insistent on punishing myself.  

Its affecting my health, I've been diagnosed with anxiety.  

I'm more determined then ever. The look on my children's faces is going to be the fuel to kick this sh@ for good.  

Chin up folks xx

Hi,

It's simple. Do it for your children. My father was a compulsive gambler, because of that I spent most of my childhood in care and now I've foolishly followed in his footsteps. Do you want your kids to grow up copying you? Because of gambling I've been in some dark places including being homeless. I accept responsibility for my own actions, I don't blame my dad completely but i'm sure my life would have been a lot happier if he stopped.

Don't mean to be harsh. I wish you well.

Stuart

Good luck boo get them block s in place you can do this 

I hear you Stuart!!! Not harsh at all. My mum was a gambler. I don't want this c**P for my kids 

Thanks tommy, I'm gonna kick it!! 

Hi,

I'm at the beginning of my recovery too..... I believe blocks should be put in place and seek advice from a counsellor. I'm hoping to do this when i have alone time in the home.... have you done anything like that at all to help you?

I totally get the self destruction of it and its crazy what we do and not only to ourselves!

here's to our recovery!

Best of luck