road to freedom

Hi again Adam , I spoke with you last night !, great to see youv'e got to your first week gamble free , so a big well done .

So your eyes have been opened eh ? , well I was just the same as you last August when I came here broken and in tatters and not knowing where to turn , I couldn't beleive that so many people were affected by gambling but at the same time it was a huge relief to realise that I wasn't alone anymore , that there were people who understood just what we all go through .

In a couple of weeks the gambling fog will lift and you'll be able to see a bit more clearly the way forward and I'm also thinking that once your partner sees that your for real this time , that by your actions things will improve !

Keep posting fella as it gets it all out there and I look forward to walking this journey with you !

Best wishes for now ..............Alan

ajy wrote:

day 7
not thinking about gambling (apart from what ive been reading in peoples diaries)
this forum has opened my eyes to my (our) problems
i am NEVER going to gamble again.
hope i can get my family back too.
il keep posting my progress.

I feel you, this forum has really opened my eyes too. I wish i had gone to ga a long time ago but was just too confronting and inconvenient for me. This feels like a good alternative, best of luck

day 8
no gambling, just good news!
get to see my family tomorrow for the first time since this all came out!
only for a couple of hours but at least i can see them! has only been just over a week but i miss them so much!
being stuck at my parents is a bit boring but im taking that as my punishment 🙂
boredem could lead to wanting to gamble but theres no way i can thanks to k9!
thanks for the messeges guys ^^

oh i forgot to say one more thing..... why the f**k are gambling sites allowed to advertise thier sites every 10 mins after 9pm?!?!?
there is more and more popping up on tv everyday and finding it very awquard watching it with people lol, its a bit like when a dirty part of a film comes on when your watching with your parents!!! lol

I get soo frustrated while watching tv it's like you can't get away from it! Well done for being gamble free keep it up 🙂

day 10
spent the night at my girlfriends last night, talked alot!
took dog for a nice walk
back at my parents house now, thought it would be best.
was very upset to have to leave but these things need to be done.
no thoughts about gambling at all....
girlfriend thinks i still need to go and speek to someone in person. i dont think i need to but if thats what i need to do i will.
will be phoning my nearest help center for 1 to 1 tomorrow.
more highs than lows this weekend, wich makes a change!

I agree it's advertised everywhere

day 11
worked today, thats it lol
seeing my girlfriend for tea tomorrow night.
we are starting to sort things out and im getting so much support!
if theres anyone reading this who has a gambling problem and doesnt think they can tell anyone,
DO IT! no matter how ashamed you are and how bad you think it will be,
it will always work out for the best if you talk.
no thoughts of gambling today but didnt have time to book an apointment,
have to ring them this week though before i can move back in with my family.
cruel to be kind and all that jazz 🙂

Hi Ajy,

I've been following you progress but did not comment as You seemed hopeful of getting thinks with your partner sorted and I have burnt that bridge.

Make time for that phone call to Gamcare and sort out the counselling. You always found time to have a bet. it takes a while Fir a start date to come through Call them now they are open till midnight. While it is all going though look into GA 2 hours a week is nothing if you can get you r family back.

You have a chance to sort this I don't want you feeling as c**P as I do today knowing I'm going to miss my sons birthday tomorrow. I make no apologies for the guilt trip.

KTF

How did you night go with the gf? And hope you found tone to make that call

KTF

hi ktf, things are going ok with the family, still not back at my girlfriends yet but we are talking more than we used to.
i have aplied to the local help group who offwer 1 to 1 help in my area, just waiting cor a call back.
my girlfriend wont let me back untill i have been to counciling in person, but there is a waiting list?!?!? personally i think this forum is best counciling but she wont have it???? what do i do?
starting to feel like ive messed up so badly that theres no chance of fixing the damage.
i was so positive earlier this week, now not so much

just had messege from my gf shortly after last post, shes angry.
we were both so happy on the weekend now its turning into argument again 🙁
all this and no..... still no urge to gambe

Hi ajy,

Don't lose heart, your gf said that you can go back after you've started counselling so she's not shutting the door completely. I think the saying patience is a virtue is quite apt for you right now, you may have to wait a month but your family is worth it. She is hurt and upset (rightly so), so I can fully understand her wanting to see commitment to beating this. The good news is you can do this and you have something worth fighting for which is more than some. Come on mate, chin up. You'll be on 2 weeks tomorrow which is great news!

Keep positive,

Twinklyr

Thanks for coming back mate. You screwed up you did some silly things. Right now she is hurting she is going to get mad at you. You have turned her world upside down its going to take some time for it to sink in. She is going to have a go at you you have to suck it up keep calm and give her honest answers no matter how hard that is. This isn't easy for her either

You are doing the right things you have show her you are going to change and the counselling is a good start.

I cannot recommend GA enough it would be good for you and her. No waiting for an appointment just turn up give it a go. It will show her you are taking it seriously. Actions speak louder than words and just as importantly it will be z massive help to your recovery

Give it time but don't go back down the gambling road you have everything to lose and nothing to gain by doing that.

It's not going to resolve itself overnight you have to work as hard as you did to get that next bet on

Stay strong and KTF