Starting again Aged 35

Chris

It will never cease to amaze me how much the gift of abstinence gives, and to boot keeps giving.

Fella you stood up to it, I hope from it you keep building bridges for you and yours.

One day at a time life will improve.

Well done fella.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thanks duncs, well yesterday was a successful day spent the whole day with my family went to beach in the afternoon and played on the beach dinner out crazy golf and most of all just had a laugh life is on the up and it is all only possible in my new non gambling life 7 weeks and counting thank you everyone here for the help and support. Stay safe

Morning all well I've managed to hit 50 plus days works been busy this week and the thought of gambling have been minimal, but life it self is so much better finished work earlier than planed yesterday so having a full afternoon free and a little extra cash in my pocket from an extra nights bar work I thought I would do something positive with it and jumped in the car and made the 2 hour drive back home to spend it with my family had a great time, things are on the up with the wife we have started talking lots more she even pointed out how much more chilled out I was over simple things, mainly because I'm not so stressed. This site has help me so much and look forward to more good times to follow. Now time to head back down the m1 to work but feel so much better knowing I spent my money on my family not a machine, keep safe will check in again at the end of the week.

Been over a week since my last post but glad to report not because things have gone wrong total opposite been so busy with the family and enjoying life, went out Monday & Wednesday night managed to have a fun night no thoughts of gambling and spent the night talking in a group something I never did when I was gambling cos I would have spent all of my time on a machine. Came home Thursday just in time to watch my sons leaves assembly which made his day as well as mind.

Took the wife out for lunch on friday things are slowly getting better between us something I never thought would happen.

Spent Sunday gardening with the wife again something we never did together before I was either on the computer or just out, followed by a family BBQ.

So to that end to everyone who like me thinks you have lots everything just remember only the gambler lost everything, begin a fresh start as an ex gambler and some things can be found. Stay safe

Hi Chris,

Very well done on your continued abstinence. Gambling takes a lot of time from us and makes us diferent people.

So i am very pleased you found your way out and enjoy the precious moments with family and friends.

This journey is the best journey i've had, to stay strong find your true self and watch life unfolding in front of your eyes.

It's amazing and very much worth it to leave past behind.

Take care and take day at a time

Sandra x

Hi Chris

your posts about your time with your wife and family are lovely to read. I'm really glad that life is feeling a lot more positive for you.

take care

Stu

Thanks stu, well yesterday was the start of my new life not because of gambling that started 63 days ago but I left work ready to start a one month course in search of my new career, I am changing almost everything this time my out look on life my job the way I spend my time, the only thing that's not changed if my loving wife and amazing kids who have all done so much for me over the years I can finally start to give something back. At first it was just spending time with them playing and having fun, now we have a family holiday booked and paid for to look forward to the first in 4 years I think.

So to everyone one in their start to a new and better life don't look back you can't change the past, just make every effort to be different it can and will happen don't give up, I nearly did but thanks to duncs Phil stu and the rest of the support on here my kids have a dad and my wife as her best friend

Off to Leeds tomorrow for a family day a party in the park my first every music concert. Stay safe everyone and thanks again.

That post there sums up what recovery can bring.

Well deserved. Enjoy every second of it and never ever underestimate this addiction..

Take care and enjoy your concert

Blondie

Well another week has past, it's been a great, no gambling to report and not really had many thoughts of it either. Been busy with my new course which has taken up most of my time.

Managed to get the wife to tell me what was on her mind as I could tell in her voice something was worrying her, we talked it over and cleared the air that night, in the past she would have just sat on it and let it build up, so this was a big step forward for us both and it's all down to gamcare and the people here.

Looking forward to another full week on course to everyone here have a great day and safe week. Be back next weekend.

Chris.

Great post to read fella, to share recovery is a wonderful thing.

Keep making the right choice.

Please give my regards to your family.

And remember you play a huge part in this too!!

For it be very proud.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thanks duncs all ways nice to read others comments, well another good week training going well although I'm doing a computer course Internet access is very limited which is why I can only post at weekends which helps keep me safe from any temptations, the urges and thoughts are few and far between but stopping is still at the front of mind I can't let my guard down family life is so much better than before, going to enjoy the rest of the weekend and make the most of those close to me.

Here's to another week for everyone stay safe

Chris

Fella great to read your still being rewarded for the efforts you give recovery.

Keep making the right choice.

Keep enjoying the gift you gave yourself and that wonderful family of yours.

Abstain and maintain.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Well another week done and no gambling to report, 84 days and things are going well, have passed another 3 of my exams this week only one more week away and 1 exam till the course is over and I can enjoy 2 weeks at home with my family.

Had a good evening Wednesday night sat and watch the football with a few of the other guys in the hotel had a couple of beers and but didnt feel left out or that i needed to wonder off and find a fruit machine to talk to instead, even stopped and carried on chatting after the football had finished. Life is so much better without gambling and all the help I`m getting this time round is helping to turn me in to a happier person to. Keep safe

hi Chris, just read your diary and I have to say it gave me hope, so I must say thank you.

Well done on 84 days, right now that feels impossible, as Im sure it did for you on day one.

Amazing how we can allow our real life drift by as we focus on gambling in our own little world.

best of luck n your journey.

pat

Pat all the best, it does feel easier as I start to get life free from gambling. Another week down and a weeks family holiday just round the corner something I could not even think about 5 months ago, I have found that sleeping is much easier but still have more free time to spend with my family.

I have now finished my course passing all of the exams so now the job hunting can start something that keeps me close to home I hope. Loving my new life and that's all down to this site and my loving family thank you to everyone that has supported me hope to able to post more often now I'm back home. Have a great weekend and stay safe.