The Past Was Yours But The Futures Mine

Stone roses

Welcome to the diaries section fella,a place where you will recieve a wealth of help support and get to document the success of your own recovery,which in turn will hopefully inspire new folk coming that 'recovery' is the best gift we can give ourselves,the way in fact to win,all without staking a single penny.

The mantra I lived for twenty years and more

I CANNOT WIN BECAUSE I CANNOT STOP

was turned upside down the day I decided to give recovery a go,the truth is I have never looked back

Each day you make a choice to arrest the next bet you really do win.

Well done for self excluding and getting help with your finances,you will reap some amazing rewards and not just financially my friend.

The advice gifted to me on my first days recovery still works today

there is a triangle Time-money-location

take at least one away at all times and the punt becomes impossible,gifting your rational thinking to maintain control.

there is no cure,medicine or magic potion for us fella,there is a re education of the mind.

We erradicate the element of luck,with that we gift ourselves a chance to live life

I hope to enjoy reading your progress

Abstain and maintain

Duncs stepping forward never back

Thanks Duncs! some good advice! I am learning with each day that passes the last few days have been tricky but I am getting through and starting to feel better. Looking forward to being paid on friday and watching the debts come down!

it's been a tough realisation knowing I cannot win because I cannot stop but by self excluding I finally feel in control.

One day at a time i'm climbing the mountain, two weeks ago I was at the bottom of the valley and I couldn't see for all the trees.

The future is mine, gambling is the past.

well done stone roses im on day 59 of stopping gambling, we are both doing really well i have sort of forgotten about the money i have lost im not gambling anymore i could have been rich if i had not gambled by now.

Nice one stop you will be a lot richer in the future, you have done well to overcome your blip!

Checking in day 15 for me it's getting a little easier to deal with the urges and I continue to want to overcome this. My self esteem is increasing by the day and is allowing me to focus and cope with the important things in my life!

Hi SR,

Well done on 15 days of freedom and keep them coming. Yes you are right, this mist will soon start clearing and you will find your old self again.

This fight might be tough at the times but is definitely worth it. Your life is in your hands, it only takes to make that one choice each day, and you know what it is - "i will not gamble today".

Keep up the good work and b proud - you're doing it!!

Sandra x

Thanks Sandra. Day 16 today don't feel too great combination of payday and the debts I am in due to gambling but i've done the right thing and transferred all my wage to my parents and just got to chip away at the debt. Will hopefully be debt free over the next 6 months but as you say just for today I will not gamble.

So far so good! Spending the weekend working which is a good distraction

Day 19. Enjoying and embracing recovery.

Lots of uni work on but using this as something to focus on whereas in the past I would use it as an escape to gamble.

Feeling positive.

Hi StoneRoses,

Just wanted to add my support to you and echo the advice that Duncs, Stop and Sandra have given.

Keep getting through each day in isolation and you will feel a great sense of acheivement. Far more satisfying than any win at the bookies.

Well done on 19 days, keep strong and keep posting

All the best

Ade

Thanks Ade. good chatting with you and others in the chatroom the other night I think it was.

Checking in day 21! three weeks 🙂 everything seems to have changed since I self excluded I feel in control after I finally admitted the extent of my problem to myself, on here and to parents.

Very stressed as lots of uni work on at the moment three essays due by 5th of january but continue to trying to motivate myself to do this.

Looking forward to debt decreasing soon and also going to start trying to eat more healthy and get back into my running. one step at a time one day at a time but i'm sure the will help increase self-esteem and decrease stress two factors in why I gambled.

Life is certainly still tough and stressful sometimes but i'm learning it's a lot better and more manageable without a gambling problem

Day 22. just finished an essay due for tomorrow and the start of 10 days off work feeling good and relieved to have got through the stress of an essay without the need to turn to gambling!

Hi StoneRoses,

Well done on maintaining your focus over these last few days.

Keep that strength going 'one day at a time; throughout your 10 days off. Keep that guard up, as those urges may creep in if you are not too busy.

See you in chat soon.

All the best

Ade

Thanks mate. going to keep myself busy two essays and a presentation due by early part of next year so good opportunity to get my head down! No thoughts of gambling but must say i'm thinking about money and debt a lot I realise the debt is only going to come down but it's stressful worrying about it and knowing it takes time and there is no immediate fix!

Stiil gamble free and lot's to be positive about. Day 23 as a non gambler. feel proud to say that as it's one of the hardest challenges i've faced.

Well done mate. You should be very proud indeed too.

23 days and counting......

Keep strong and keep posting.

All the best

Ade

Hi StoneRoses,

Just checking that all is ok and bumping your diary up from page 3 my friend....

Hope that you are now on day 25 and feeling proud of your recovery.

Keep strong

All the best

Ade