Welcome to the " Hotel California "

" How was yer sausage " ?? :)) x

A 9 wrote:

Sooo nice catching up with a few people on here this week and I'll alway's be gratefull to them all for the contribution they made to my out of control life when I first arrived here , some crazy night's and day's posting egging each other on to succeed :))

Those times seem so distant now but I can close my eyes and feel the pain of those dark day's as if it were yesterday and I still feel that pain in some of the initial post's I read on the new members page and just as I did hesitantly pouring their heart's out .

I like to say it's going to be fine , your among friend's everything's going to be alright but from memory I know too well how tough and bad those first day's and weeks can be , you consider gambling to be your world but your world's turned against you in a way you couldn't have imagined the day you placed your first bet , so innocent back then and just a bit of fun to pass the time ? if we just new what lay ahead eh ? .

I'm not moaning though as along with many friend's from those early day's weve managed to remain gamble free for a good length of time now so it can be beaten. Am I blessed , fortunate ? or just plain lucky ? Ha, Ha !! that's a word I don't like to use here as with gambling there's no luck involved at all .

I do feel privileged though ............... priviliged to still be alive , to still have a loving family around me to support me and likewise to support them when needed , privaliged to have found this place and to wake every morning with a purpose in life again and enjoy everything it offers me .........................yep , Privaliged and very gratefull . xx.

Reading this makes me happy and gives me hope... Hope at a time when I need it most. Thanks.

Maybe we can shape our futures after all... If we are strong enough and want to change enough.

What do you call a fish with no eyes ?
Fsh !
🙂
Just so you know I'm still on form
Seriously though Mr fish. ..it's great to see you back here...x

Dean Martin ! Never heard of him ...arghhh I get it...it's a code ...
Didn't realise our brickie and city boy had joined forces ...
Lol....anyhooooo...was just having a mooch about on here ...do a 24hour shift in with mum each week now...keeps the care cost down...and allows me to spend quality time with her ...we both enjoy the time together...so..Tuesday night is Chinese supper night....just introduced her to seaweed ! her new favorite....bless her ..87...very early dementia...funny old world ain't it....she's always telling me...." you shouldn't have to do these things for me"....my reply is always...." you done it for me enough years mum "....it's a pleasure to return the care...
Bet my attitude would have been a bit different a couple of years ago .....hey ho. ....today's what matters....right....best switch off now.....or I'll never cope with lost teeth and missing glasses in the morning !
Mums....not mine xx

Hi again Loxxie :))

That must be tough at times love dealing with mum's need's and especially the dementia as you seem to be losing a little of them everyday .

It's fortunate that she has you and the family around for support and I felt the same as you when I looked after my mum when she had her stroke " It's a bit of payback time " for all those years they bring you up :))

Just a quick drop by Hun as I need to let the fat b'stds inthat hover around my door waiting for me to open :)) ,

Glad to hear youv'e still got yer teeth and no glass eye's yet :))

Talk to you soon hun and take care xx

So Diary here we are again .

I get so much joy these day's seeing our foster kids morphing back into shape as it were .

When ever were gifted with new arrivals they are in such a mess and truly affected by the thing's that have gone on in their short live's but I find it quite miraculous how quickly small changes begin to happen and they begin to blossom once more .

I really struggle to deal with some of the case workers/ social workers that are assigned to them and it just comes accross that there all just case numbers and everything has a period of time to be put in place , from the moment they arrive they're on a clock ticking away until the adoption process begings despite being ready or not ?. I find it particularly hard when people that have not even met them start dictating what's best , with no idea of the daily needs they have .

We have two young sisters with us now who because of these time constraint's could be seperated and simply because the elder one needs a little longer to adjust ? e***n crazy !!!!.

Rant over diary and still gamble free :)) .

Hey. ..ive always admired you and Mrs fish for providing these kiddiewinkles with a safe loving home in which they can be kids without the turmoil of there past lives....sadley I suspect it's all about the paper work and number crunching with regards to the final destination of the little dears. ..it's a sorry state when they even consider separating siblings. ....unless of course it is for there own well being....although I struggle to think of an example where that would benefit any child....I know some children sadley have to be removed from birth family for there own saftey.....and that they often show huge resilience to ...the unsettling times they've been through....but each child needs to be allowed to do this process in there own time ....not governed by a social services clock. ...
It must be very frustrating for you both Alan. ...but I know you'll fight the kiddies corner as best you can....and in the mean time...there safe...and being able to be kids whilst in the fish household.....so.....huge respect to you both....and a big hug for the kids....xxxx

Hey. ...not sure if you're quiet because of logging problem...extra busy in the chippy ...or just taking things easy for a day or two enjoying the family....but thought I would pop over and check on you. ...
You better catch up with martyn...he's gone off Barry apparently .....and i cant help wondering why ?
But that conversations probs best left to you guys....happy frying xx

Thanks for the lovely post...
I'm sorry to hear about pooch...hope all well now..I've got Jack's. ..all fast approaching 17 ish...so getting on...like some on here !
I can't beleive little one is toddling about...seems like yesterday I was always asking....has baby arrived !
Totally get what you're saying about business....jeez....how lucky are we both to still have one....
And how lovely it is to be working sooooo hard.....for us and ours...not a bleedy machine ..
Marts done a fantastic job on the cake....I left some in the chiller for you all.....but reckon balvo got there first.....so...you'll have to have left over squiggles tonight..
Now....I can't beleive you've forgot Barry. ....you're usually so switched on al....but i suppose we're all sooooo much older now...and maturing...so I won't go into details about Mr horn..
I've even had a visit today from my other musketer....you know the one....he was a bricklayer...now he's a singer....
Or...an old neighbours star....same thing really....but twas nice to hear from him....and I'm afraid as he's not got a home on here....I'll have to thank him here.....so cheers beanooooo
And come back soon....I miss the fun .....
So....back to you codfather...I'm thinking you live in the naval port...well...look out I'm visiting sister soon....so may pop in for some chips .....although I reckon there's probs 100's chippies in the area....so I'll be as fat as a tractor time I come home....
sleep over in mums tonight...we've had the lost teeth incident yet again....followed by....the ususl saga of...lovely day for june....shall we go strawberry picking....bless....I just go with the flow....and cherish the time. ..
Hope you've had the lovely sunshine we've had....it's here again tomoz.....
And I've got time off from 2 till 6....sooooo happy days...
Catch you soon ....x

Where are you Alan? The board is back on now... Keep up mate :o) no time for dawdling... The world needs you! :o)

Afternoon and thank you for your kind words on Loxxies diary x

A9 - you probably changed your name as Alan was becoming difficult to spell - old duffer

Hugs x

That "drawing "....reminded me of one of those blow up dolls !
Ohhhh my ! I'm still chuckling to myself as a put stock away !
OOOOOO

Ffs. ...I wrote a epic post to you...
Now I've lost it...
Ill 're do later. ...on a mission at mo .....but all good x
Xxx

U get put on the naughty step again............lol

Me in a mission ? I know I've seen the light in some things...but don't think I would pass that test just yet !
Anyway....as I was saying...us girls of a delicate age....or in fact any age ....don't get man flu. ..obviously....what we do suffer from is those oopps moments when we've got a cough and cold. ..so understand you're dilema with the runny nose....
I'm chuffed you got an official welcome back. ...but a telling off for calling balvo names. ...missed that one ! lol
I'm thinking that I need to crack on with next diy project....bought all new kitchen cuboard doors about six months ago...paper..paint...New sink etc...even the matching mugs. ..all ready to go. ...just lacking time to sort it....and....it's not a job I can do solo...I need a man that can...maybe Jason could help...he must be slowing down this time of year....or...I head straight to lounge...I can do that myself....New sofas etc on the
list...but....it's a work of art to get in/out....and as I've done the hallway....don't fancy the ball ache of it all just yet...lol..but...I'll jump to it when ready...that will be the whole place done then...
Hope you're pooch is doing well ..and Back to normal...
Children looking forward to 1/2 term....and Halloween ?
I'm sure youll take them trick or treating won't you ...
Visitors slowing down a bit now...but bookings coming in for functions etc....so I'm happy with that....I do offer garlic bread with a couple meals here....so if the French get on you're nits. ..send them down....all my lot are fine...another wedding in 2020...so that's exciting...my daughter that made me face my addiction....bless her...I'll always be so grateful to her for making me see what I had become. ..
Grandson who was born so prem. 7 years ago...facing so daunting bowel sugery ....so lots of love and support going to him and daughter.....but I'm with them now...no slot machines to get in the way so we'll all get through it..
Relationship with hubby....yes...we're ok...it's funny how when you're being yourself...with no secrets and lies. ..things are just normal...and life's just so uncomplicated...
Anyhow....i know you'll get the drift of what I'm trying to say...
So today im off to get my anual high and low lites done....don't panic ...it's not painfull...its just something some of us girls like to have. ....hope the man flu soon subsides and you're back to full speed.....don't go being rude to the boys ....you're far to good a chap for us to loose on here...
Totally random....but was wondering about toad the other day...on a Lilly pad somewhere I spose....
Right....must get domestic chores done before I head to town...have a good day Mr fish...happy battering. ..and I'll catch you l aters x