Looking for advice on how to feel normal again after my latest big loss. I have got all the blocks in place and I know this time I don’t even want to gamble and my gambling days are over. But I am really struggling to come to terms with the losses and “letting them go”. The huge sums I have lost over the years and my latest loss are just really eating me apart. I can’t seem to feel normal or myself. I want to move on and start to enjoy life but it won’t leave my mind and it’s like constantly having a headache from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep. Any help would be appreciated.
Regards,
C.
Hi, I was exactly like this, feeling exactly what you are. But, after going on retreats and having counselling, I learned that you have to let go of the losses. They’re in the past and you won’t ever get them back. If you keep thinking you can with that ‘big’ win which you’re due, then the loss will just get bigger and bigger. Compulsive gamblers are never winners and were never up.
Just take one day at a time, but you must be kind to yourself. This is an illness you’re dealing with, it’s not just something you just consciously decided to do!
Can you talk to anyone?? Being completely transparent is a big step forward. The addiction wants you to keep secrets and tell lies. The moment you say those words out loud, you’re already a winner in more ways than one.
I’m on 570 days GF now but I was at day one once. Have faith. Wishing you all the luck.
Claire x
@cpparch Hi Claire, thanks for your message. I do realise that I have to let it go but is really hard. I am confident I will never go back to gambling, so need to use this as my main focus to know that I will never find myself in this position again as long as I do exactly that and not gamble. I am speaking to a member at GamCare weekly on a call which is helping me look at things and make sure I’m on the right track. But I really don’t think speaking to love ones just now is the route for me. I hope I can deal with this myself and get through this without others having to find out. I know it may seem bad but it will just make matters worse for me if I do.
@gbt804pchj you have to do what you feel is best.
Take a look at Gordon Moody, they offer retreats and counselling. The best thing I ever did!!
Claire x
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