Because I am becoming a much healthier healed person I am less likely to react in unhealthy ways due to my unhealthy painful anger rage resentments guilt shame regret I no longer want or need to transfer my painful anger rage resentments guilt shame.

Hi

It was important for me to understand that my addictions obsessions just indicated how emotionally vulnerable I was before my recovery.

Every pain in my life caused fears in me that I did not understand.

Being unhealthy I woud live in fear of being honest becuase my hurt inner child of being hurt again.

The fears I lived in suppressed from from living a healthy life.

I felt very threatened by being questioned.

In time I got to understand that my fears restricted me from living a healthy productive life.

Also my unhealthy fears restricted me from having very healthy intimacy with my self and with other people.

As my fears were reduced my trust grew and I was more open to intimacy with others.

My unhealthy reactions to people life and situations help me understand that I was still hurting inside.

Healing love and peace to every on.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Hi

First it was important for me to abstain from my addictions and obsessions.

Often people will swing between one or more addictions and obsessions.

First thing for me to abstain from my unhealthy habits.

Keep attending recovery meetings.

It was very important to find a healthy meetings that shared therapies.

Then to hand over all of my finances.

It was important to share what my feelings and my emotions were.

In time I would understand that my unhealthy reactions to people life and situations I was hurting my self.

In time I would exchange my unhealthy reactions to healthy interactions.

Once I was more open and honest my fears would reduce.

I then found that my trust grew in me once I over c ame my fears.

It was important to work on my recovery at a stable pace.

No more rushing at things.

In time healing took effect.

In time having emotional intimacy with my self and with others was very healthy and powerful.

Healing love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Reading this has provided me with understanding, inspiration and most of all hope. Thank you for posting.

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It was my pleasure.

Thank you for your comments.

Dave L

@fos8w71jcb Hi

Thank you for posting you reply to me posting.

In our sharing we get to know more about the healthy healing process.

Over time we come out of our shell built on our fears.

Dave L

Hi

The consequences of working my healthy recovery program.

Anger resentments hatred and aggression reduce due to our pains being healed.

Guilt shame regret indicate we are living in the pains of our unhealthy actions and our unhealthy words.

Impatience intolerance indicate we are being hard on our self.

Not showing gratitude appreciation indicates that our values have not improved as yet.

Showing gratitude appreciation indicates we are expressing our healthy values.

Showing gratitude appreciation indicates we are opening up to healthy emotional intimacy.

Slowing down my pace in life indicates that I am valuing working my time at a healthy pace and enjoying it.

Saying I have to implies that my motive for doing things is reluctance and resentments.

Saying I have to implies that I am not getting any satisfaction from the things I do.

Am I putting enough time and effort in to my recovery today and in to healthy productive living today.

Am I writing down my list of my needs my wants and my goals today.

By not writing down my list of my needs my wants and my goals today I am not being committed to my recovery today.

As I am more committed to my recovery success becomes about my healthy actions and my healthy words.

The more productive and more successful I am each day increases how much I value myself today.

 Have I learned to love myself more today.

 Have I learned to respect myself more today.

Healing  Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham