Any advice would be welcome. I recently moved from Leeds to Deal in Kent and I don not know anyone.
It was my partners (who I’m now splitti g up with ) decision to move “family” here for lot of important to him reasons.
I am about to become a single mum without a penny saved in a place I don’t know at all. I don’t know where to start and do not have a clue about the process. Now where does gambling fit into this: between 2016 and 2017 I have spent about £50000 of our company money (or as it turns out my partners company money) and that money has been sitting in that company as a quiet debt for way over a year.
I have not gambled since may 2017 but I am becoming more and more tempted as the situation is unraveling. See at the time I thought this was suppose to be our business I have started it with him and I kept it alive when he still had a job and I worked me a**e of day and night since for the last 6 years for this business whilst looking after my kids and the house. But turns out I am just as employee and I don’t have a say about this money and how to handle it. He keeps bring reporting me to the police as the only option for the company to hang=dle it. But what is going to happen to me and my kids if he does that.
Like I said we are splitting up at some point and I say at some point because we just rented house in deal which neither of us can afford on their own and business is to busy now to be doing anything before Christmas, so im sitting here in my little prison think what am I going to do.
I feel like im losing my mind. Slaving around for someone who has just seen me as common employee for years, who thinks looking after kids and the house not stop isn’t work that I need to earn my living and than be grateful that he provides a roof over my head,but I can’t go anywhere. I feel that as soon as I make my move he will do something to destroy me, unless I do what he says which is work for him for less than minimum wage and do what he says.
Im scared and confused. I could do with a meeting as its been a while but now that im in the middle of nowhere I can’t get to one. I have no childcare.
Are there any women out there in my area who would be wiling to chat sometime?
Hi Anialee,
Welcome to the Forum, and thanks for posting. It seems like you are going through a lot at the moment, not only with your gambling problem, but your relationship as well.
It is good that you have found this forum, as you will not be alone in this,people here will support you, and you can also call our Helpline and speak to an advisor who will look at your gambling with you if that is what you want, and also sign post you to other areas of need if you want support from other organisations.
You mentioned wanting to talk to others. We run a live Chatroom everyday on this forum, and you can chat live with others from the comfort of your home everyday if you like. The times of our Chatrooms are posted on this Forum.
We also give free counselling from many areas in the country and we can give you free counselling if you would like to look at the underlying reasons for your gambling, and also a space to talk about what you are going through. Our Helpline number is ontop of this Forum, so is the link for chatting on our Netline, that is if you prefer chatting to talking over the phone. Our helpline advisors are available everyday from 8am to 12midnight .
I am wondering if you feel that you are not safe being at home, as you mentioned that your husband is threatening you with calling the police for you for gambling your company's money. Whatever you have done, you do not have to feel like a prisoner in your own home. You can talk in confidence with a Helpline Advisor here and you could look at what support is there for you and your kids when you call.
You have come to the right place, you do not have to be alone in this.
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