My husband has a gambling addiction. He is currently clawing himself back out of his 5th relapse. He has once again got himself into arrears in all his bills. But He's almost back on top. We both work and the only day we both have off with our two year old is a Saturday. Hes taken to working Saturdays to get more money to pay his debts which I understand. The trouble is I work full time, attend college 3 days a week and have an evening class I attend and I'd love to have our Saturdays as a family. It's annoying me that he just isn't around in weekends anymore. I can't help but argue telling him myself and daughter are being punished not having the day with him because of his stupid actions. It feels like he's putting everything before coming home after work or having the Saturday off with us. Am I being selfish or do I have a right to be upset? Thanks x
Hi sparkle it's a tough one because a compulsive gambler is often a hard worker. I often think they work to gamble. The thing I've learnt is that if they're willing to get themselves extra work to pay their debts that is to be admired. The outcome we all want is normality and peace. An end to the arguments. Perhaps there is a better way to plan things? A better way to repay the debt that doesn't involve extra working hours? Unfortunately sometimes we can't have it all. I think if it's causing a problem you need to talk about it.
Mr L delivered takeaways on weekend evenings for a few years to repay the money he'd conned from the kids. Not ideal but it left the days free. Might be an option to consider?
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