Hi all,
My partner is gamble free for almost 2 years (sports gambling being his vice, football, tennis, cricket - but mainly football)Â
Since he has stopped gambling which seemed like a walk in the park to him, it was his habits around sport and intent on wanting to read up about it, keeping track of what is going on in the sporting world and the only conversations he seems to have with his friends that really put me on edge not because I'm worried he will gamble but because of what he might be getting from this. His behaviour seems the same just minus the gambling.
With the world cup coming up I've seen him constantly be on all the sporting websites, reading all kinds of articles about teams, players, constant chat with his friends and it's making really anxious. He has told me time and time again, football is something he just loves and that's that but I think I still really struggle to understand how he can love something so much (almost the same amount) even though it nearly ruined him?Â
Should I be worried about the affect this might be having on his mind so whilst he's not gambling this is actually ok and maybe I'm overreacting? I'd really appreciate any constructive advice!
Is he signed up to Gamban or anything else that self excludes him online for 5 years. If not, do it.  Will helpÂ
@alireza Thank you for the kind words. The gambling part isn't something I worry about, however he is also partaking in a sweepstake with his friends (again under "normal" circumstances this is really not a big deal) however given there is money involved, I'm worried it will trigger him to feel like while this may be a friendly game amongst his friends, this is technically gambling right? The thrill of it and the added bonus of maybe winning or losing some money.Â
Is he signed up to Gamban or anything else that self excludes him online for 5 years. If not, do it.  Will helpÂ
Ask to see the ban - ask him to try and log in or join a gambling website while you watch. If he has signed up it wont let him and then you will know that he isn't lying.
Ask to see his bank statements - if he won't let you or makes ANY excuse, you will know he is lying.
Personally, I don't believe him as he is demonstrating all the signs of gambling and doing what we all do to our partners - we lie and make excuses and deceive.
Do not trust his word - trust what you have evidence of.
Best of luck.
Mick
I hope I am not oblivious to the whole issue.
Even though he has recently started troublesome activities and is on the verge of it, he has not yet committed the cardinal sin.Â
Give him the benefit of the doubt cautiously. He might just be having fun with it all.
In the meantime, please share your thoughts and concerns with your partner, and let him know how much his recent behaviour has affected you.
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Best wishes.
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