Hi sorry new to all this just stuck my bf has a really bad gamberling Problem he has stole money from work, he doesn't pay his part of bills and says his not been paided some weeks, when he can't get hold of money he gets so angry and says such nasty stuff he doesn't love me he doesn't want me would rather be with his ex, im fat ugly a pig ect.Â
We barley talk now he has gone through thousands a month he owes his whole family money they know he has a problem but once he says he went to a meeting they don't seem to care.
I know I should leave him but we have a 6 month old and I have helped him so much put so much into this relationship and I should weak and stupid I know but I'm finding it hard to leave even though I'm told daily he doesn't like me love me then next day he will say he didn't mean it but why say it.
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Sorry to go on but is this normal for a gamberler never been with someone like this before so much anger I feel he is nasty to try make me feel s**t and belittle me in front of people my family friends so I feel rubbish so I don't leave he said he knows I'll never kick him out so he is not bothered.
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Is this the problem talking and getting angry or does he just not love me but surly if he didn't he would leave and go back to his mums ?
He gets so mad when I don't lend money and I just feel so exhausted.
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Hi, thank you for your post on the forum.
This sounds like a very difficult situation for you to be going through, and I am sorry that you are being spoken to in this way. If you would like some extra support and advice please do come through on the helpline : tel:08088020133 or via live chat, whatsapp or facebook: https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/ and we can talk this through in more depth. Gambling can cause a lot of people to act in ways that they never usually would and it can be very difficult for them to deal with, however it can be just as hard for those around them and your feelings are absolutely valid. Please know we are always here and you do not need to go through this alone.Â
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I think that he seems to be using you. The kid is a by-product, not the point of staying together.
He loves/hates gambling and you come second, as does everyone else in his life...
Unless/until he makes some effort to change, or at least acknowledges the problem you should separate.
If that does act as a wake up call for him to see what he is losing, then you must put some distance between yourself and his destructive behaviour.
If a gambler is heading down the toilet, there will be no good in it if you to jump in with him.
If you love him, then 'tough love' is the best option.
If he loves you, then things will change.
Good luck,
Clifford
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