Does lying come with gambling?

I can only talk from my experience, but I would say, like with any addiction that lying is part of it. I lied because I told myself I had it under control so didn't want to worry others 

People lie because they're ashamed of the truth. This goes hand in hand with gambling addiction because anybody who is a gambling addict feels shame. Even though I never stole or borrowed money from people, I felt shame that I had spent so much time and money and neglecting people in my life because of my addiction. I lied to friends, when they asked why I hadn't moved out of my parents house (they knew I must have lots of money because I'd been working full time and only paying 200 a month towards rent/bills) I'd make up excuses about not finding the right place yet. When they asked what I'd been up to all weekend I'd lie and say I'd been working on projects, rather than the truth which is that I spent all weekend gambling. These aren't big lies that would negatively affect anyone, but it still felt horrible that I was lying to friends.

Hi kegs, iam a compulsive gambler and long history of gambling you kind of have two options and that lie or avoid the questions. I seem to lie a bit now even in recovery but I keep chugging along. It’s not great but the truth is being open and honest with your partner is best… maybe some thing I need to do at the moment myself as I navigate personal issues right now.

i don’t have any advice with some one who continues to lie but I hope he finds some relief in telling you the truth if he gets some recovery under his belt.

Hey, i am gambling addict i always speak truth but when it comes to gambling issues i lie. I lie when people ask how i dont have money when i just got paycheck i make up lies where the money spent and like that one guy said if people ask what did i do on weekend or any other day when i was gambling full day i just make up some lies about what i was doing. Its all anout the shame. Lies isnt good and i hate that i have lied to people. Now i am on recovery and really trying to stop gambling and that way stop lying too. My advice is speak to your husband tell him that you know what he have been doing lately and he doesnt need to lie to you. That you want him to be truefull to you. And speak out all these problems. The problem on most gambling addicts is that they are all alone and doesnt get any help. They try to solve problems by them selfs and they keep finding them selfs time after time on gambling and on lies.

Sometimes the truth is too hard to accept. I have lied but not to hurt anyone. I lied because of my shame. I don’t lie and am very honest about everything in general. Accept this! I feel shame for lying too. But I also know the truth is too painful for me to face openly to my loved ones. Don’t get me wrong, the people closest to me know I have an issue. They just don’t know how bad it is. Maybe one day I will tell the whole truth but I’m definitely not ready to do that yet. I need to trust myself first. And I don’t right now. I’m working on it.

Dear Kegs,

I read your post a few days ago. 

Yes from my knowledge and research any addiction leads to lying. It does not mean that the person is a lier in the first place it is addiction which make him/her lie. Whatever it is alcohol, drugs, gambling etc …

You have not given too much details in your post. You seem hurt which is normal feeling. 

Yes, behind any addiction it seems that there is a trauma. I have experienced the same with a gambler and one day he told me something which had happened in his childhood and was not dealt with and ignored.

However I have also learnt that we can’t carry on making excuses if someone is disrespecting us whatever happened to them as we end up feeling bad because of them.

He is your husband so have you tried to talk about what might have triggered his gambling addiction?

PS: you are not a mug you are being human.

Candy xx