3 years ago I met the most amazing man, who was brave enough to share with me that he’d struggled with gambling in the past (5+ years previous)and it had led to debts of 98k. He’d sought therapy and was managing his addition.
During our relationship he has always had money issues which I’ve put down to ‘getting back on his feet’ and the significant debt he pays back, he’s also not great with finances as a whole.
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I’ve supported him and done all I can to give us the best future we could wish for.
At the beginning of this month he sat me down and shared that he’s been gambling again and has lost everything he had, he earns a great salary and has blown 1000’s since the beginning of the year (although then actual timeframe he can’t remember).
I’m absolutely devastated, mainly because he’s gone through this alone and hasn’t been able to tell me (I knew something was up but actually thought it was an affair!). I’m struggling to understand why he’s lied over and over to me and how I can trust him again.
I want to support him, I’ve done hours of research and I don’t want to walk away from the relationship, I’m just struggling to understand why a man who has everything, loving partner, great job, healthy happy children and a new beautiful home, wasn’t content and decided to risk the lot.
How on earth do we move forward together?Â
Please help.
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Unfortunately it doesn't matter how much we have we are still gripped by the addiction. Hopefully you can get back on track together and beat thisÂ
Im really sorry you are going through this it one of the worst addictions a person can go through and i wouldnt wish it on my worst nightmare at my height of my addiction the things i did to fund this addiction i still question myself was that really me and here i am almost two years clean without a bet only he can make the changes blocks are necessary and giving up finances especially early days it not a case of just quiting the issue with this type of addiction it simply advertised and their simply no limit in terms of finances what helped me is coming on here regularly being aware of the addiction and simply not giving into the addiction the risk is always their my life is great has long as i dont place the first bet this is determing factor after countless relapses i am full aware i cant cure this addiction but what i can do is prevent a future relapse has long as i continue coming on here it very easy to relapse so what worked for me is doing what i can this is my issue and if it means spending some time on here is a small price to payÂ
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