Hi,
I have looked at this site a few times but today I joined as I can’t bare this any longer. So needing someone who relates to share this with.
My husband told me he had stopped but i recently found more credit cards and than another loan. In total he has gambled thousands which is now on our mortgage. I had known he had a credit card and we did add life stuff on there but he promised it wasn’t gambling and he could manage his credit card monthly use it and pay it off. I’ve always been suspicious of this and take blame in wanting holidays. Maybe I aided in the addiction putting pressure on him( I work to and we earn enough money for a holiday). He shouts so much when confronted and I have no choice but to agree or it’s left unsolved. Looking back I knew I was right and feel so hurt he shouted so much causing me pain and upset.
The amount of arguments over the years when he had no choice but to own up and the lies or blaming me his being a rubbish wife.
He has again promised never to again and said he’s banned himself from everything. I’ve just accused him of betting online and it’s caused a huge argument. He’s gone out his way to prove himself shown me his bank account phone history but I can’t believe him. I may be wrong but the amount he went on instead of just saying no love look. He’s aloud privacy but I’m at the point where I don’t want him to I need to see everything.
If I’m wrong I’m ruining our marriage and not helping him but I struggle to trust him. I’m not sure how I ever will…
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