How can you tell if it’s rock bottom

Hi All,

How can you tell when someone has hit rock bottom?

My adult son has had a gambling addiction using online casino slots for at least a couple of years.This started  following a very traumatic relationship breakdown two years ago.He came back home to live which was only meant to be for a short time.He co parents a 5 year old who he adores and comes to stay with him frequently

He tells me he has stopped and blocked sites etc, but obviously hasn’t.Only time he doesn’t gamble is when he has exhausted any credit sources.His debt that I know about is about £30,000 from Credit Cards ,bank loans,Pay Day loans etc. He recently sold his car to pay debt.He earns a good salary but never has any money.He doesn’t contribute to household bills etc because he has no money.I know I’m enabling him but as a Mum (and Grandma) I can’t turn my back on him.

His mental health is suffering and he is obviously very depressed but won’t talk to me or anyone else.He gets very defensive and angry if I suggest he talks with professionals who have the skills to support him.

I am trying to support him but he obviously doesn’t want any input from me.I have to respect this but it’s hard to watch him continue to self destruct.

I can’t imagine what he’s going through and I am scared about  what’s coming next.

I know he has to want and instigate any help.What can I do to support him until then?

Thank you for reading this.