I've recently found out my husband has been gambling after 7 years gambling free. He has borrowed money from friends, taken loans and credit cards amounting to just under £100k. Last time it happened it was about £50k and we tried to work through it, paid off the debts ans started again. Things were good, we bought a house and i never thought he'd risk it all again. We have young children and I'm terrified about what the future holds. He wanted me to remortgage our house to pay off the debt which I've said no to. I don't think I can ever trust him again and feel so stupid for giving him a chance to put it right last time. I don't think i can afford to stay in our house and he is not going to be able to afford to live elsewhere now he has so much debt to repay. I feel very stuck and scared and wouldn't even know how to explain it to the children if we did split up. Would appreciate hearing from anyone who has been in a similar situation. He says he is getting help and he has blocked himself on Gamban but i just don't believe it wont happen again.Â
Hi lulubelleÂ
im so sorry to read this , this should not be happening.
call stepchange and talk to someone. I personally think that there should be some liability with the lender. Who can afford to repay that.
remember it’s his debt not yours. All monies are for living and the children, debts come last. He has to sort this out, he has to tell those so called friends he can’t repay it.
i learnt the hard way, helped pay debts etc for over 10 years and still he gambled. Eventually I learned to say ‘no. You sort it out. You have to tell those people you’re a gambler and you can’t repay’
thats the only wayÂ
my husband finally relinquished money, lived just cash and receipts for a longtime.its only when they face what they have done will things change.Â
get some support for yourself, call gamcare, go online find a meeting, anything but don’t face this alone.
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