My partner is making it very hard to trust him. At this time it feels like every word he says is a lie, this has been building up for me and I'm not sure how to deal with it. When I confront him about all of this he tells me that he would never lie to me and that makes me feel bad and like I'm going crazy but he gets very defensive when I question him about anything gambling or money related I have thought about speaking to his family regarding this but they are always going to take his side regardless I am feeling very alone right now with all this
Best treatment that you can give to a gambler is to leave him
If he really loves you he will change his habits very quickly if there's more important things out there for him then you are then he will carry on gambling and treat it like you never been there
I was a gambler for last 23 years,illness?I certainly can tell you that this has nothing to do with illness,mental addiction etc.
If people want to stop for good they can do it just like that like switching the paper to another page.
Just like a did
The quicker you stop its better I have hit rock bottom atm reached the stage atm of stopping but the debt I incurred is a daily stress can't sleep eat or even work properly there is no one to turn to for financial help to clear at least some of my debts so I can have some peace and fight with the rest I have maxed out instutions etc with loans and they are being paid well ..but it's it's external lenders that I need to clear that is a daily stress to bare and sometimes I feel like I can't go on so please to anyone that hasn't reached this point plz stop get help and don't destroy ur life like me
Hi Rose
Although he won't like it I think in this situation the best thing you can do is ask for proof that he isn't gambling, ask to look at the finances, his bank statements etc,
If he doesn't share any if this information with you, if trust has been broken in the past around gambling it can be very very hard to get back, if you don't want to speak to him about it then write him a letter for him to read at a different time with all your worries and explaining why you feel like this, that way you can be honest without worry of a backlash.
Hope it helps and you both manage to sort things out.
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