Hi Lou here
My partner text me this morning to say he has gambled our wedding money away. He had been in rehab about 13 yrs ago and I wasn't with him then, so this is all new to me. I really feel like I hate him but I love him so much. He says he has a number to ring but is to scared to ring it, and to be honest I am not sure how to help him. Whether tough love is the way or encouragement. Feel like taking his access to money away but is that treating him like a child, I am so confused any help please
Hi Lou,
Welcome to our Forum and well done for getting in touch and wanting some support.
I can hear that you are conflicting not only in your emotions but also what approach you should take with him. I can also hear how concerned you are and have been thinking about how you could support him, but question whether perhaps in taking his access to money is in a sense removing his responsibility for his gambling.
He may well have our number, and we are here to support him, and you too. Continue to have a look round our Forum and post for support.
You can get in touch with a GamCare adviser through our Freephone helpline on 0808 8020 133 or come through on a Netline call if you want to talk through your difficulty in coming to terms with your partners gambling. We are open from 8am to 12 Midnight daily.
Warm regards,
Saffron
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