Hi there,
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I donāt really know how to word this other than my heart is broken by my now ex partner. Heās relapsed again and heās become so cold and distant. Saying I make him miserable, heās so unhappy and that he doesnāt love me.Ā
I knew he was relapsing months ago but he doesnāt know I know his behaviours. Heās been so cold to me but when Iāve raised is something wrong he would say no. Heās been so late for rent for months and I eventually said enough is enough as it comes out my account. He admitted he has been gambling again. I tried to be supportive but said I wasnāt helping financially. He said he didnāt want my help.
I encouraged him to download the gam stop tool which he did but wonāt go to meetings. I tried to help him work out his monthly finances but he snapped saying no, as I was catching on to massive gaps in his story. ie lots of missing money.
After this, heās been really nasty to me. I again asked what was wrong and heās now said heās miserable and left me after 9 years. Heās ran away to his flat leaving me to sort out our rented house. I now have to move into a house share while heās in his own flat with friends/family nearby and im 3 hours away.
How can he be so cold?! Is there hope for us, or is it possible Iām kidding myself thereās no link to gambling and he is just done? 9 years is a long time and I donāt want to throw it away, but I deserve better š
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Thank you!
I have been the other person. And honestly you become so selfish. But you do realise and it does hurt and there is guilt xĀ
please do what you need to do for you first. The rest is extra xĀ
you deserve better x
but all we need is that one person there to help xĀ
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im sorry ? youāre going through this xxĀ
much love ?Ā
Hi i really donāt have any advice or help because im going to a similar struggleā¦my partner is gambling yet again and im so low. Itās horrible the lies just keep coming and he minimises everythingā¦itās ok I have it under control..your nagging me.. I will sort it ..I Ā wish you would trust me!!! That last one is probably the worse ! How the hell can you trust?? They become beyond selfish and In their own world.. I really hope youāre ok itās sickening reading some of the stories and how this addiction is destroying them and everything around them. Xx
Hi,
Iām new here, I chose to join the group after being with a gambler for four years, I realised how much it is affecting me, I want so much to help him and have tried persuading in all the time weāre together. He is still reluctant to help himself so I chose to get the support instead, as believe me we need it family donāt seem to understand my struggle.
I can relate so much to your words about trust, Iāll sort it, Iām trying to be better.. Iām sorry, after nearly destroying us and our business sorry just doesnāt cut it xxĀ
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