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I’m completely new to this, but wanted to pop a post up, I’m not really sure why, but I just do. I’m 23, so young and I met my boyfriend in November. When we met he was quite interested in stocks / trading 212 etc (I don’t understand it which doesn’t help but it’ll mean something to someone!) Anyway, last month he opened up to me about how it’s become an issue and he’s lost £10,000. We deleted all his trading accounts together and he said that was enough. I actually had a call with GamCare following this just to reach out to find out how I could educate myself, but by the time the appointment came round just last week, I delayed the start as such because as far as I knew he wasn’t trading / gambling anymore. Anyway, last night he came to bed at 3.30am and I woke up. I wondered what the hell he’d been doing, and knew straight away what had happened. He’s lost another £2000. We chatted and spoke and he was very honest with me, and that he wants me to have his money he has left. As frustrated as I was I was awake for an hour in the middle of the night, it was so important we had the chat we did, and I love him more then anything for being so open and honest with me. I said for him to call in sick for work, and he said that’s a good idea. I wasn’t working today either which worked great because he got up at 12 noon, and came into the kitchen to tell me he’s spoken with someone and was going to a Gambaling anonymous group this evening. I was SO proud of him. I gave him the biggest squeeze and said how strong he was for reaching out for help. I had to pop out but he said when w back we’ll sort his money and do the gam ban and things. He contacted Trading 212 and said he wants to be banned, which they have done. And I have his savings safe in an account he can’t access.Â
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gosh I’m sorry I’ve completely rambled! I don’t even know what to ask on here, but I’m sure someone has something to say! Thank you so much for reading this.Â
Hi, I can relate to what your boyfriend and you are going through and it is brilliant he has your support. Like allot of people I have lost thousands on trading accounts, gambling under the pretence of investing. It is incredibly addictive and gives you the opportunity to lose money almost 24 hours a day always seemingly giving you the chance to get your money back. I found it creates a background stress which was always there even when I wasn't trading, wanting to know what the markets were doing. I am sure your boyfriend will have been carrying this with him too, it makes it hard to focus on anything and impacted my relationships, work and ability to just chill out. I am now making my bank account totally transparent with my partner and exploring how I can use Gamban, she has been very forgiving and supportive as you seem to be. Its very lonely s******g up in silence so having someone like you for him will be gold on his journey. Not sure if this helps but I guess its just to say there are lots of us who have been down this road and eventually I hope we can all feel better and lead a happy stress free life so good luck to you both. I have found counselling helps too btw.
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