trauma I am left with

He isn't going to stop gambling.  Not unless he wants to, which it sounds as though he doesn't to.

Do you bail him out?  Don't feel you have to answer that btw.

It maybe an idea to speak with him honestly, but midweek after the payday and gambling, about how his behaviour impacts you.

If his behaviour is causing you distress as impacting your life negatively and he is unwilling to change is this really the person you want to be with?

Only you can answer these questions but respect yourself and realise you have the right to have your feelings respected by the person you are with 

@thebean That is harsh but that is exactly what I would say if someone was telling me this story. It is easier said than done and right now I am thinking with my heart and not my head and I know it is a problem

It's nice to see the other side of how the Partner feels. When I gamble I am zoned out and don't want to be bothered. If I am out its mainly not with friends but by myself playing slots and drinking, its sad but that's the truth of the addiction. I get moody when my partner calls and asks where I am sometimes I have been really nasty on the phone because I am drunk and want to win money at the Pub slots. I too either come back smiley if I've won or moody and angry if I haven't won. Try putting some measure in place with him and take the money off him when He gets it and give him an allowance, take control of the finances because without a load of money he can't gamble it all ( Limit the damage) If you give him an allowance and he blows it dont give in giving him more. I used to say its my money and ill do what I want with it etc. I have to be tough on myself and I ask to be treated like a child because I cannot control having a large amount of cash in my hand. I am still working on my gambling addiction I have cut down substantially from the ways I used to gamble and the amounts I used to gamble, but everyone needs support and some people can't cut down or stop alone, I know I can't but I have told my partner everything and it's very rare now I do it. Sit down, talk to him say how it's affecting you and your not happy with his behaviour and make a plan going forward. He may have debts that you do not know about and is worried and he thinks gambling is the only way to get out of it (it's not), He may be depressed deep down or stressed from work. Non of these are an excuse to gamble but may be a way for him to escape the real problem and to make himself feel better.  It's tough but have those chats. Good Luck.

Nathan.