4 days in and feeling positive

Hello mate,

i know how you feel. Its just the buzz. That intense moment of seeing what the next card is, beating the dealer etc. Thats why you dont withdraw, were just plain and simple gambling addicts. But it doesnt have to be like that, well thats the hope im holding onto anyway. Its my first time I posted today too, I feel its a really positive step.

You were doing so well, you didnt need to go back to it even if it was just 20 pounds. Even if you did stop at tht 20 pound it would have played on your mind and you would have gone back at some point down the line. I make the same mistake too many times and i have gone longer then 3 months without gambling. Thats just the power of it, we have the logic but it gets lost when it comes to our weakness.

The way i see it is all my time and energy I have put on gambling, I will put the same into not gambling. I will be visiting here daily, arrange meetings and attend sessions. The more we keep reminding ourselves how bad this is and what it has done to us, the more chance we will keep away.

What i found is once i got my life back on track and as you say get confident, I feel i can afford a slight hiccup and i have a little flutter. But it never is little, it always turns major.

Concentrate on all the good you have, and good that will come. Stay positive and strong.

I wish you all the best mate, keep us posted.

Take care

Hi Cameronwat,

Rayan and Shaker1 Make excellent comments.

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Cheers.

Hi all,

many thanks for your comments above - although i've not replied until now i've been reading them along with other posts on the forum everyday and i've found they really help to put things into perspective and keep me focused. I really wish you all the best and I hope you follow your own advice because it really is helpful.

I'm 7 days GF now and feeling a lot more positive than last week. I've spoken to my family/girlfriend and a good friend of mine who are all very dissapointed but are standing by me. I hate the fact they probably think of me as a stupid idiot!! I don't disagree with them though..

Tomorrow is payday - i've already took some measures incase I lose control. I don't expect too as i'm feeling very confident but i've learnt from last time not to get too clever and confident as it only takes one slip up and I lose everything. I'm going to put as much aside as possible to pay off some of my loan - even if I xfer some to family and then when I save up 1k I will pay some loan off in chunks. I hate having the loan around my neck , especially when I see it as gambling debt it really makes me sad, angry and dissapointed in myself - it's a constant reminder.

I feel very alone at the moment but i'm going to my first GA meeting tonight which I hope will help with this. My fmily and friends are great but they have no idea what its like from the inside - from outside it all seems so easy and simple. I can kind of understand where they come from as when I think of people smoking and being addicted I think to myself 'just STOP doing it, it's that easy - you don't need one'.

I've never gambled day in/day out like some people on here - its always been every 40 days or so just as I get back on my feet and then I lose everything I have so the 7 days GF I have achieved so far don't feel like much. Buy hey - I guess we all have to start somewehre. I'm so excited and determined to be 1 year GF - then 2 years. I cant wait to earn the right to say I dont gamble any more. At the minute i've said that 10+ times to my family so it doesn't count for much...they just think pffft i've heard that before!!

I want to find a new hobby that gives me a big adrenaline rush - i'm thinking of starting skiing again or possible ice hockey/surfing i'm not sure yet - if anyone has any ideas or hobbies that have helped them please let me know? would apprecate your thoughts.

I'm determined more than ever that I will not be the guy who posts on here in a month or so 'I've done it again' or 'I cant stop'. these 7 days I have under my belt are the start of something great/brilliant and exciting. They are the start of my new life.

thanks for reading my very blabby post - I just wrote what came into my head in a very unorganised way!! I really appreciate your support. When I reach 60 days GF i'm going to start giving some advice myself on the forums with the things i've learnt and hopefully help others too.

d**n I hate this evil game

CW

Hi CW
Good luck on GA tonight. Go with an open mind, dont expect miracles it isnt a quick fix. Any questions on attending please feel free to ask. I may even no someone there & ask them to look out for you

Dan

Hi all,

just had a big urge to gamble so thought i'd come on here and write something to take my mind off it!

I'ts been 22 days now and im feeling really good. Starting to forget and leave behind the pain that I was feeling last month. This time im going to remember I DONT want to cause the same pain again and not get too confident - I know even betting a fiver will lead me to lose hundreds if not thousands.

just gotta keep strong, mind over matter

as my dad tells me - it's just a decision, everybody makes good and bad decisions in life - you just need to start making the good ones.

thanks for all of the support you have all given me it's really helped. I hope you're all doing great! keep it up. Keep looking at your daily count and think how horrible it owuld be to go back to 0 - it really helps me to have this as a visual aid!

thanks again all

CW