Admitting it is the first step right?

Thank you, I have spoken to my best friend she is going to pay my pay day loan for me and I have arranged a standing order to her account every month that will ease the pressure of the high interest and I can turn my back on that.

My husband is working all hours at the minute and I just don't think now is a great time. I will however in a couple of weeks when things are more settled at work discuss everything with him. I secrets and I hate lies - nows just not a good time.

I understand my problem and issue but I want to say to you I have no idea what you go through everyday, family and friends are so terribly effected by this addiction.

Thank you for the advice I have self excluded from all sites. I really hope this will work.

xx

Congrats on the baby and good luck going forward.

Loads of useful information on here. You WILL beat this.

Thank you Trueman7

Today is certainly the first biggest step I've made it will be a long journey but knowing that in 6 and half months me and my husband will be blessed with life's biggest gift I've got it all to fight for.

The shame I feel I think is the worst part of the whole addiction! I can be strong thank you

Hi Mrs P

Thank you for responding.

Always online. I have self excluded everything, I have no idea why I relasped I stopped for nearly 4 months.

My friend is amazing however this site is all about honestly she has no idea what I got the loans for. I'm too ashamed.

I have 5 credit cards and 1 guarantor loan so I understand the awfulness of debt. I have to clear them or at least the majority before this beautiful bundle of joy comes! That will keep me focused and I will beat this.

How long have you been stopped MrsP?

XX

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Please self exclude and don't just ask to be self excluded state in the emails that you have a gambling problem this will stop you being able to reopen accounts again in 6 months time. Trust me I've tried, and be wary of sites that will still let you open and deposit even though you have previously self excluded. Hopefully it won't come to opening anymore accounts though!

Good luck

Thank you everyone I've been reading the forum, I feel for everyone here but it has helped to know I'm not alone xx

Hey congratulations - a new start, a new life - you can do it!

Can I ask about the online counselling? Have you started a day how does it work?

Definitely agreeing with full self exclusion - even if you want to you can't - and it dubs down the urges very much indeed.

I'll also look into that k9 blocker, see how it works.

Many thanks
J

Hi All

Sorry I heven't popped in for a while i've been trying to get my act together.

Had my first scan all is well with the baby.

Just a quick question can you take a family to a gamblers annoymous meeting or do you have to go by yourself?

I'd like to go and I'd like to take my partner and mum and maybe they might get a better understanding?

What do you guys think?

Love and Peace

Sazzy x

Hi
Sazzy
It varies from meeting to meeting. Some groups are happy for partners & family to sit in others prefer to only allow it at what are called open meetings.
The standard meetings are a place where compulsive gamblers go to be open & honest about their behaviour & some understandably find it difficult to do so when partners & family of others may be sitting there judging them.

My advice, take them along to your 1st meeting if it scares you to much to go alone. Hopefully even if they are not allowed into the meeting someone will be able to chat with them about how GA works

Dan

Thank you 🙂

Hi, Sazzy,

Hope all going well for you and junior. No offence taken from any of your posts.

Take care,

CW

Thanks Clynical wife! I'm doing great thank you feeling very positive and bump is great.

I hope all is well with you also?

Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

Hi, Sazzy,

Thanks, better than it was.

Was looking at your posts about self exclusion, I recommend a letter to the head office (get your husband to check the address), give them your name, postal and email addresses, date of birth and passwords, say that you're a CG in recovery and that you want to permanently self exclude. That should stop future visits to those websites so that you don't have to rely on will power.

Take care,

CW