Hi everyone!
I don't really know where to begin but it all started in April time this year when I won £800 on a silly online slots game. From then on I've gambled on the same sites and spent more money than I can imagine including an £4000 overdraft. I have a young family of 3 children and believe I've been using the gambling sites as a getaway like most. I keep putting off and putting off telling my partner about this but I just don't know where to begin. I'm scared, ashamed, embarrassed and highly disappointed in myself. I'm also worried he's not going to understand. I suppose I'm just looking for some words of wisdom on how to approach him about it all. Thanks xx
Hi stace telling your partner is a big step but also the right step as it means you can tackle the problem as a team and it takes all the pressure off you as i'm sure you are sick fed up of lying and hiding and being deceitful.
Also important that you put measures in place to stop what your doing and by reading posts on here and taking advice you will be able to put an end to this self harm and move on with your life.
All the best
Hi Stace, I'm not sure I have any good advice for you, I'm sure others may be able to help you more with that. All I can say is that I totally understand. But I am like you, a gambler. We don't think or act logically. I'm fortunate in that my b/f knows I have a problem, but he really has no undertstanding of it. You know inevitably you do need to tell him. I feel for you because it will be so difficult, but i think once you have done it the weight will be totally lifted. Can I ask, have you been together long? How do you think he will react? Teresa xx
Thank you everyone for your replies. We've been together just over four years, we have 3 beautiful children 2 two year old twins and a 3year old. Im just so sick to the stomach of telling him as he's been trying to hard to save for us all to get what we want. That's what I'm scared of more, how he will react. It can go either way I suppose depending on what mood I catch him in. I just don't want this to break down our family as I will have been the cause for it xx
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