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Hey J, regardless of how it came out, & equally of what exactly they do & don't know, you can now breath again & that IS a huge step! As too is accepting that the addiction will not go away with this release! Soooo proud of you 🙂

I kind of expected it to be deleted but was still kinda shocked when I logged on to see my posts to you had vanished! New name new start may also be a little worried but hopefully she'll see this!

If you want to swap email addresses, let forum admin know & I'll accept the swap!

Onwards & upwards now - ODAAT

thank goodness for that! i was indeed worried ODAAT!. Im so pleased u r beginning to get sorted. i know first hand how scary being outed can be. i know you will go to any lengths to hide it. i also know that not everyone is understanding and the one person i should have been able to trust was the one person that caused me so much misery by not understanding gambling addiction. what i can say, is apart from him and his family (who only know his side), i have admitted my problem to EVERYONE and i have had amazing support. i finally feel capable of putting an end to the gambling and if anything i seem to have lost interest!. a lot has happened since i last updated and i now have a beautiful new home for me and the kids. i havent moved in yet and am still busy trying to sort finances so that i am able to, but i have hope. everything that scared me wasnt so scary after all, and what i thought were reasons to gamble i can now see were excuses. i see so much of myself in you, and i slipped in deeper than you have YET. i wont let you keep digging and getting to where i was before you get help. youve made the first step, and i know you are going to do this xxx

oh and if its pos

sible to exchange emails id love to keep in contact with you both too x

Oh guys I'm so sorry to have scared you fear not I am still here! New name I'm so glad you have perked up and congratulations on the new home that's definitely something to look forward to for you! I wish you all the luck on moving in as soon as possible 🙂 it is a massive deal for me that I have been outed with regards to that debt as I'm now getting help to pay it back slowly and therefor take away the massive excuse I was using that I absolutely needed to gamble that 'once more' I need to save all my money from now on and from my next pay day I'm 100000% handing over finance to either my partner or mum. Think mum will be more firm so I think it'll be her 🙂 how do we go about exchanging emails I'd love to be able to share without having to hold back in the case of completely outing myself! Ha xxx

And ODAAT thanks for being proud I'm hopeful for the first time in a long time. I need change to happen xx

Not sure if you read my last post before you deleted your thread but well done for telling your family about your problem, it really is the best thing you could have done 🙂 hopefully now you will get all the support and help you need! Please take my advise on self exclusion though and make sure you mention you have a gambling problem in your emails aswell that way they shouldn't ever let you open accounts again. You will never win playing the slots and I learnt that the hard way! I have an addictive personality and for me to was something to just pass the time didn't matter wether I was winning or losing just as long as I was getting a buzz! If you have an iPhone/IPad then use that to play non gambling games of course to kill the time you would have spent gambling it has helped me! Now I just spend far to much time playing hay day and jurrasic world! But atleast I'm not losing money! It took my 7 years to get out of this hell! If I can do it then so can you!

Goodluck xx

Girls, if you check out the second sticky post on The Welcome to Gamcare section, this gives you all the advice you need about exchanging details!

Hopeful is a great start J 🙂

Keep fighting everyone - ODAAT

AS, sorry I didn't read your post before the thread got deleted. I didn't tell my family about the gambling but they know about the debt that i had which was what I convinced myself I had to keep gambling for I case they found out. So now that it's out I have no excuses or anything to hide behind and talk me into just one more spin! So hopefully I can put this to rest now. I know now my debt is out so I don't have to rush to pay it back but I obviously still have that little niggle but it doesn't seem enough anymore. There's no reason so the voice in my head can't talk me in to it!!! So hopefully I can be stronger than the niggles. I'm hoping not to let myself down come pay day. This one will be the true test. Fingers crossed I still have a long way to go. And ODAAT I shall look when I'm on the PC as I'm on mobile just a quick visit. But deffo interested in swapping emails with u guys. Talk soon. Hope ur all well. Xxx

How u doing Jamie? Has payday been yet? X

Jamie even if Uv gambled please speak hunni. X

Sorry New name, tend to avoid coming here if ive been bad and of course i got paid yest gambled almost all of it. God i swear will this ever end!!!! does hypnotism work?!?!?!?

🙁 xxxx

I had a feeling u had but I thought u got paid a little earlier. Right now I'm going to be harsh with u. This is only my 2nd month being gamble free and I have followed the same pattern as you for a long long time. Unless u make massive changes this is never going to stop. It's never going to get better. You need help chick and the sooner the better. Stop letting your mind tell you gambling is the only way to relieve the pressure of your debt and make money. It's a lie. You are a compulsive gambler and will never ever win as anything u do win will be played back. Had u not of gambled this month u wudnt be rich but u wudnt be in the mess Ur in yet again. I promise u the first time u get paid, pay any important bills then DON'T gamble u will kick start Ur brain into thinking differently. U will feel a bit of pride and eventually the thought of losing anything in your account will turn Ur stomach. I promise. If u still insist on doing this alone u need to look at your whole life. Without blaming money u aren't happy. Is it Ur relationship? Ur job? Get out of them now if is. We only get one life and you are wasting it away. U have to be stronger. This has to stop. X

In regards to your debts, please contact Ur creditors and tell them u can't afford the repayments. Offer them a token payment until u r back on your feet. U need to have money left to feel any pride and stop chasing. It may affect Ur credit file but.paying nothing at all is worse. U can do this but u have to help yourself chick. Nothing changes if nothing changes and only u can do that. X

Thanks for the tough love New name. Your completely right. Dont like my job and love my oh deeply just a lot of drama in our relationship but thats due to gambling making me unhappy 🙁 Im glad you are the proof that one day I can stop. I was so sure I was going to do well this month 🙁 I only have money for half my bills this month its not good. Going to dig out everything i can to stick on ebay now and continue to kick myself that Ive let myself down again. I want to stop so bad just before I got paid I actually didnt even want to gamble I thought of all the things I was gonna treat myself too but one £20 on a website turned to all my money chasing it. I have emailed all creditor offering token payments so thats a start. Thanks New name. I just dont know what to say anymore this force that I cant see that has control over me is unbelievable. I DONT WANT TO GAMBLE !!! so why does it make me. aghhhhh god sake im stronger than this !!! xxx