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Odaat I have a basic bank account with barclays but all it means is no overdraft. It's still a visa card and can be used online etc. Fab idea to scratch off the cvv. U don't need it. Jamie u will feel the benefit immediately as long as u have also made arrangements for Ur debts. If u promised to repay 500 and only get 500 then Ur still on a sinking ship! Make sure u offer Ur creditors only what u can afford and don't promise family and friends what u can't afford. Make sure u have something left. Not enough to gamble with and give it to someone to keep for u and give u money as u need it. This is why u HAVE to confide in sum1. Until u break the cycle u can't be trusted I'm afraid. What date do u get paid? Just so I can hound u and bully you into doing the right thing. Lol x

ODAAT you suspicious thing. It means that im going to try again on my own. But only mentally on my own. Financially im putting blocks. Making sure im definitely self excluded from all the sites that i know about. (i kept one spare ive self excluded for good now) give my mother my card cos she now knows how bad i am with money anyway so she will be more than happy. I get paid a week friday NN, i get roughly £1000 pm and end up with £350 expenditure on a good month £200 this month cos im in over draft £150 from standing order taken out) so thats an ok sum to live the month off when gambling is not involved and im budgeting hard. good news is im going on holiday in two weeks so i get paid and ill be using my money to go away and not on gambling this time. the time away i will use to reflect on how material things like my holiday and my nice clothes etc make me happier than throwing my money in to a machine and never seeing any outcome from it. I need the time to take a well deserved break from this grey cloud over me. Theres a girl in me who doesnt take s*** from nobody so i dont know why shes falling for mr gamble as ODAAT would call him! Ive lost her along the way but ill be dammed if i keep pushing her out of the picture. I can do this and I know i can im so much stronger than this!!! xxxxx

Good for u hunni. I'm going on holiday the week after too! Just think of all the extra spending money when u don't gamble!! It's much sweeter than any feeling a win would give u x

Great to hear real steps in the right direction J 🙂 Don't waste anymore time on Mr Gamble, he's s**m...I know, he controlled me for long enough! I live in harmony with him now, like a long distance relationship gone bad...I can't say I miss him when he's not around but it's good to have sight of him so I'm not anticipating the worse! Please follow through on the steps before you get paid as I think a little piece of my heart may break off if you succumb & he ruins your holiday!

I'm asking Nationwide about the basic account as all Dr Google could turn up were people complaining they couldn't use credit cards for online gambling & lots of 'lovely' helpful people giving advice on how to get round this (grrrr). Citibank appear to probibit it because they are an American bank but I couldn't get into their T&C's. I have a cash card with my account that I got when I opened it many moons ago that I know I cannot use for anything else but once I get clarification as to whether this is offered as a sole account I will let you all know.

You ARE stronger than this! Keep fighting - ODAAT

Still here guys lurking til payday...3 days away. Will keep you updated. Already got my eyes on holidays clothes I want to spend money on instead of gambling 🙂 x

Hi guys. Im here.

Holidays went well! I paid all but one of my bills before I went away and had money for euros and my holiday 🙂 im skint now for four weeks until payday but its mostly due to going away and about 20% due to gambling :/

Hoping for things to get better. they were before I left for hols. not a great deal better but a step in the right direction maybe. Hope your all well anyway guys.

Much love xxx

Good to hear your holiday went well girlj, that's what money's for after all and at least your skint now for a good reason, I'm the same as you with monthly pay, it is tough at times but without gambling it can get much easier, keep up the good work

Hey stranger, that's a massive improvement to where you were @ 🙂 I was a little worried the holiday was a cover for that mud hut so rather pleased to see you back 🙂

There has been talk all over the site of a basic account since I mentioned it but no response from my bank! If you are still needing a kick, why not give Gamcare a call & see which ones offer the cant use it online card?

Keep strong J - ODAAT

Hi Guys thanks for the kind words.

As much as I wouldve loved to stay out on holidays ODAAT unfortunatly my life and job is here and I need to continue to make money and pay off debts 🙂

Onlything is the one bill that didnt get paid was my car again (I know slap on hand big time)

Im currently begging for forgivness and offering them to extend contract and increase interest to make it worth their while to let me keep paying back what I owe.

Self Excluded from all the sites I know.

Really really feeling this time is different. Said that before but its gotten to the point where I cant be arsed for this lifestyle anymore. The thrills have gone, The interest has gone, My life has gone and I need money!! Sooner I realise that i'll be richer without gambling that I ever would be with it the better.

That time is now.

Theres a long road to recovery now though and a looooooot of debts to fix 🙁

But im young, theres life in me yet and a lot of time to do so.

With the card ODAAT I dont want to be restricted online shopping etc, maybe I can ask my bank not to authorise gambling payments wonder if they would do that?

Much love guys hope your well.

xxx

Devastated, been told he wont wait for the end of the month and is passing my account on to agents for collection of vehicle by monday. I feel sick

By some stroke of luck or I think MIRACLE! They guy has (probably after 15 emails of me begging) agreed to hold off and accept my next DD payment and see how it goes.

I WILL NOT be defeated by this and next month is bills bills bills. and ZERO GAMBLING.

This has been a second chance and Ive had enough scares.

Feeling seriously and blissfully happy about the small things today after getting that scare out of the way.

Another day another lesson.

Much love xxx

Never 🙂

I haven't been glued to the site recently & don't use the Forum section nearly as much as the Recovery Diaries because it's not as easy to view on my phone!

How you doing? Out on Shanks's pony or did you manage to do what you planned (pleaaassseee be the last one)?

How you doing generally? Nailing recovery I hope! & never getting complacent! I will keep my fingers crossed & my eye out for a cheeky little update from you (no pressure) 😉

Hiiiii so good to hear from you!!

Havent been on here loads myself.

Shanks pony im afraid 🙁 Had a rough time but ever hopeful again and continuing to push through. Keep fingers crossed for me this month for payday I owe a lot out but if I can do that and not gamble atleast I can sleep at night knowing im not owing so much even if i will be skint. Congrats on your 400 day mark im still so so jealous.

But I can do this I know I can.

Life in general pretty good how do I go about getting your email address again?

If you dont mind 🙂

xxx

Jamie!! First time I've been here for months and I came str8 to u looking for good news. Please don't let us down on payday. I'm sorry I have been a stranger. It started when I moved and had no internet for a few weeks then I avoided loggin in as I had no urge to gamble and didn't want to be reminded. It was very selfish tho and I'm sorry I wasn't here for support. Anyway, I'm doing well but have to own up to a "blip". I succumbed to a free online bonus and won over 1000 pound. I used most of it for the new house and was so grateful. Of course a win is only ever "borrowed" as we well kno so over the following weeks I deposited about half of it back. I had no excuse except the ex is playing with my head and emotions and I was feeling really down. No excuses tho, I was weak and stupid. I've dusted myself down and am back on track. Come on Jamie we can do this xx

Hi New name, thanks it means so much that you came straight here. Your not selfish I hide away from here when i just cant face anybody. Im glad youve been doing well and atleast your blip hadnt cost you your own money. one way of looking at it. I paid all my debts today, even bought an xmas present! but I have gambled whats remaining money I had and half off my car finance payment. I feel ill. Again, how many chances am I going to get what the hell is wrong with me. Im doing a lot better and Im changing in so many positive ways lately, done a lot of soul searching, but it come to pay day and I am gripped one way or another. Im once again on my a**e thinking of how I can get money for my car payment. Im worried I havent got it in me to change somebody highjacks my body when it gets to payday and I loathe the person in control. New name can I exchange emails with you too? xxx