Hi my name is Alain and I am a CG, this is my 1st time on here and lost more money today, just got paid on Thursday and have lost all my wages again, I really need help to quit this horrible addiction, I feel everytime I get paid I just hit the self destruct button, I know I need to stop but I just can't , my debts are just mounting up constantly borrowing money of people, I feel so low just now and full of regret, I have came on this site to give this a go and see if it can finally stop me from doing this horrible addiction, went to GA two years ago for a year and never gambled, thought I was cured and then a couple of months I was into the same old me, my dad went with me as he is a CG, that's two years he has been off a bet and and I still can't do it, want to change my life for Me and my family.
Thanks Alain.
Hi Alain - You have taken the first step in admitting your problem and coming on here means you are trying to help yourself beat the gambling. Your story is almost a copy of that of a very close relative of mine and I can feel both your pain and that of your Dad and family. I will leave it to the counsellors on here to talk you through your emotions and targets for recovery but I may be able to offer some practical help. I did suggest to someone else on here to treat your recovery as an ongoing project and make a list of things to do i.e. keep a diary like the one on this site and start counting the days you do not gamble. Try and sort out any debts you may have, debt management companies and banks are actually sympathetic if you explain the situation. Maybe your Dad or family would be willing to take control of your wages, finances, bank account, credit cards etc. There is a lot of secrecy wih gambling and this way if someone else is looking in on your spending it will not be so easy for you to gamble. Maybe your family can help you with all of this.
I wish you luck in your recovery and hope you get lots of support. I am fairly sure the aim of this site is to make you start feeling better about yourself and I hope you achieve that.
Morning Alain,
Somewhere in yourself you must know the importance of the GA meetings. I attend them and they do work. Actually I don't like it when they say "we CGs will never be cured of this illness." Probably if I'd have done 1-2 years without a bet I may have thought I was cured. I'm only near 90 days, but 100 days ago I never thought I would be nearly 3 months gamble free. You know the meetings are always there for you and you'll be welcome back. No way will you be the first to think their cured and most certainly not the last. Don't delay my friend get yourself back to the meetings and construct the barriers you put in place before.
Hope to hear from you soon regarding your new GA experience.
All the best.
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