Hello, this is the first time I’ve ever even thought about coming to terms with my problem. I thought writing about it, albeit to people I don’t know, it would help. It all started about a year ago, before this I was a harmless gambler, gambling small, small losses but sometimes winning. This all changed when one high roller stake bagged me a big win, I couldn’t believe it, how easy it was to access so much money. After the money was spent, I thought it would be just as easy to win again, maybe I did and so on, then I was chasing losses, and chasing my wages back that I had spent within a couple of days, then I suddenly found myself every lunch break gambling hundreds of pounds getting myself into approximately £10,000 worth off debt. I hated my life however I had hope, my one Hope was that I had compensation coming my way that would clear my debt and leave me with a considerable sized savings account. I knew I should’ve stopped but once I received my compensation and my debts were clear, I was then chasing the loss of having to clear my debt. A further year down the line has passed, I have no savings and I’m in further debt of around £8,000. My family and neither does my parter know that I have no savings left nor that I’m in debt. Every day is a struggle, hoping for a further big win to clear some debt. The problem is, the win is never big enough and the debt gets bigger. I’m now backed into a corner and soon am going to have no choice but to tell my partner which I know is likely to destroy us and I completely understand. I know I have a problem, and I need to come to terms with it, starting today. Thank you for reading xxÂ
Hi Jellyfish123,
Well done for taking that first step and writing down how you feel. It can be a scary thing to do. Just remember that you are not alone and that we are here to support you.
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Hello, I told my partner last night as I knew I couldn’t continue living a lie. They was surprisingly supportive and just shocked at the situation and that they didn’t know sooner. I’m happy I finally spoke out and have the support, i am going to register for self exclusion across all websites for 5 years and tackle this head on. My mind set has changed and I know it’s not too late to change. Reading these forums have really helped and I appreciate everyone sharing there situations.Â
Welcome to the forum. And well done for telling your partner you just made a massive step toward your recovery. I can relate very much to your partner. When my fiance told me he was a compulsive gambler, I was absolutely heartbroken but I wished he told me sooner. I felt so hurt and sad that he went through all those dark times alone.Â
Secrecy is the enemy. Now that you’re open to your partner, you can focus on your recovery. And you and your partner will have an even stronger relationship than before.
Best wishes to you
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