I hadn't gambled in 5 months and yesterday I walked back into a betting shop. Luckily the woman behind the counter recognised my face from my self exclusion picture so didn't get the bet on but the guilt is eating away at me.
I've told my wife who was really understanding and is helping me but the guilt is hard to deal with. Â
Just feeling I've let myself and my family down but given in to the habit.
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Stop any access to money either cash or debit card then you can't bet when tempted. My wife has total control of our finances. I have no debit card, only have a credit card for when I need to spend. May seem extreme but it works for meÂ
@bladesman no disrespect to you and I understand you say it’s working but having a credit card is that a good idea? I know for me and recently relapsing that a credit card in the hands of compulsive gamblers is a big red flag and a no, your wife doesn’t have total control as you say,if you have a credit card, again apologies if as you say it’s working for you just saw it as a danger,all the best to you!
No need to apologise, was only a suggestion but I can't gamble with a credit card.
@steve850Â I gamble have full control over all our money in my house that I gamble when cant release my anger aw stress takes me to place were its block out but when I've done the damage I have to be stressed putting it right again I know my kids asking me for things I cant give now cause I spent the money so now to help me off them I think of wat I can do with that money see there little happy faces again that's worth more than my need to gamble shot music on clean up take your mind of doing it plan to do stuff with the family as your partnerÂ
@bladesman was just thinking that something I have done in the past is withdraw cash on a credit card to use in the bookies, for me no cards no temptation.
@steve850, I suppose you are right but for me, I've never been in a bookies, it was all online so works for me. Also once my gambling secret was found out I no longer had the need to keep going as I was constantly chasing the losses to put back before I was found out. I only have the card to spend on things we need, no thought of withdrawing money, and I know if I did my wife would not stand by me any longer so another incentive to keep gamble free. If this doesn't work for others that fine, we all need to find our own ways of dealing with this.
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