I made the decision to tell my fiance today. He is devastated and I can't even begin to explain how awful I feel about making him feel that way. I also feel a sense of relief, or maybe I am just in shock I don't have to do it anymore. No more desperately trying to break even having to lie about money so that I have enough for rent. It was killing me. I hated the gambling. I won't ever do it again.
Hi Kam,
Get registered on gamstop for max 5 years, and self exclude from any locations you go to. #
Sam
Hi
Its one of the best decisions you ever made. Recovery starts now but there is work to do and you can never be complacent.
If you keep following the trusted advice and remain open and honest about your feelings, gambling can be consigned to the dustbin of history
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
My partner hates me, I think we are over. He can't believe all the lies. I don't blame him. I have been so stupid. I have signed up to gamban and spoken to my debtors. Trying to do this when I feel so sad is bloody hard.
Many here understand, I can empathise with the debt situation too.
Hi well done a very brave decision and I didn’t do what you did and I lost my relationship so you can be 100% sure you have done the right thing by telling him. Know more lies!
The future will unfold and whatever happens you are in better position by not gambling.
hope it all works out
matt692
I dreamt that I had gambled last night it was awful and I woke up so depressed. I'm just desperate to make everything better but I can't.
I dreamt that I had gambled last night it was awful and I woke up so depressed. I'm just desperate to make everything better but I can't.
By not gambling you are making things better, I 100% guarantee gambling will not help.
Its annoying because apart from that dream I haven't wanted to at all. Makes me wonder why I did it for so long.
Thank you all for your responses. They really are helping me!
Start a diary , it helps keep you focused
WELL DONE......many people take a longtime to be honest with their loved ones so your first step to give in and admit this is a massive start to a new life for you......gamstop immediately if not already done so you can avoid online slip ups,gambling attempts and consider ga meetings.....
I spoke to my partner face to face about this a couple of days ago and he has decided to give me another chance. No more lies! I had another dream about gambling last night but it was just really stressful so no desire to do it today. I went a the chatroom yesterday which was great and I left it feeling really motivated about my recovery.
Hi Kam
I just spotted your diary on here today after our chatroom chat yesterday and I wanted to post on it to help keep you motivated. It is great to hear that you found the chatroom helpful yesterday and keep up the good work. Remember to be kind to yourself and I look forward to hearing about all the positive changes that you make in the coming days removed link There is certainly no space for gambling in your plan!
Take care
Edinstead
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