Finally admitting i have a problem

Hi @h1996, 

I hope you're doing well! 

The time I would have spent gambling I generally log in here, read through some post, especially the recovery diaries, I find it very helpful, not only seeing people's successes but you'll pick up bits of advice along the way.

My day 7 is now done ?

Hi.

I'm in the same position and finally gave in yesterday and broke down to my partner and confessed.  Today I broke down again and got my mum involved for extra support.

I went on a long bike ride to get some air and was great for the mind.   I'm also looking for extra activities to keep the mind busy during them periods where I would be fixation on gambling.    Think I'm going to try yoga vidoes on YouTube and take up some colouring or reading .see if it helps

Hi @h1996

Admitting is a big step.  It’s taking power away from the voice of denial. 

Is there anything you did before gambling that you enjoyed?  Can you revisit that?

Or is there anything you wanted to learn or try but never got around to it?  This may be a good time 

The resources here will help a lot   

@sam23 Hi Sam,

May I just ask what sort of reaction you received from your partner? I want to tell my partner after work tomorrow but I’m really nervous on the reaction and the effect. 

thanks,

@g3712 

Hi, I finally told my husband last weekend, he was extremely upset and shocked as he'd no idea, I strongly suggest not putting it off, because there will never be a right time to do it but the longer you put it off the harder it becomes, bite the bullet and get it out of the way, at least then you'll know where you stand. To be honest my husband was a cold for a couple of days, I told him I felt hated and ignored by him since I'd told him to which he said wasn't true he was just struggling to absorb what I said, I told him he has to be open with me about his feelings, to be fair neither of us were ever good at saying how we feel, he was brutally honest with me and has also been extremely supportive since. 

There will be tough conversations along way but hopefully it all works out for the best.

Be kind to yourself, give your partner time to absorb it all too. 

For me .... Day 8 is done, and for "just one day I will not gamble" (this saying helps me alot) 

@bettyfretty Hi Betty thank you for sharing. I told my partner a round an hour or two ago and it went really well. We spoke and she said she’s grateful for letting me tell her. We’ve come to the decision to try keep my mind busy and away from gambling. I’m really happy with how everything went and gonna try the one challenge I believe where you go 1 day then 1 week to a month etc and try keep in the mindset of no more. As much as I love gambling it’s also the thing that depresses me. I hope you and your partner are ok and have resolved all issues. 

thanks,

Thanks all, some helpful things. 

I've always wanted to learn a new language so I may spend the time I spent gambling learning a new language. 

Its a sensitive topic and you shouldn't joke, but in 3 weeks ill know 12 languages replacing the time I spent gambling with learning a new language. 

I'll check back in with this thread in a few days and get an update.

Without even thinking about it register with gamstop ...don't overthink or grieve the winnings you believe are ahead of you because there aren't any. It's scary and I imagine you can't bring yourself to do it. But please for your own sanity do it and then move forward because the constant worry, sleepless nights and self loathing isn't worth it!