Finding it hard and finally realised I have a addiction

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(@3sued1atlh)
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I nearly lost everything a couple of years back including my business, partner and family due to gambling online, and I've now managed to slip back into the same hole and have been hiding it from everyone, now my partner found out and I've lost everything her trust our relationship, we are currently going through a bad time with pregnancy related problems which has led to us no longer being pregnant (which I find it hard to talk about) and I've now know myself that I have got a problem/ addiction but I know and am determined to stop everything to try and get it all back I have Gamstop and registered all details but I just don't think there is any chance of getting any of it back or getting out this hole I've put myself in, (sorry it's so long I just find it easy to write stuff)

 
Posted : 2nd July 2023 9:01 pm
(@287hzyl0pq)
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You won't get the time or money back its gone 

Gambling is one of the greatest thief's of time , i've lost weekends to it in the past basically just going around in circles with it 

I recognised a long time ago it's a very pointless activity but obviously provides a great dopamine rush for our addict brains 

Some can get really sucked into the gambling lifestyle and it just becomes their entire existence 

I can't play for more than 2-3 hours as I start going loopy,  but some will sit there for like 7-8 hours punting like zombies 

My only advice would be too set time limits on the sites or just ban them all together and move on with your life 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
Posted : 3rd July 2023 9:31 am
Tazman
(@tazman)
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The truth is we all know the money and time are all gone you if your fortunate enough you may get some or even all the money u have lost it happened to a few however the truth is the odds are stacked against u you wont be able to quit their many stories people winning large sums of money and end up in a bigger hole then they have started the only way to move on is accept whats happened and move on eventually your life will improve including mental health the gambling industry is toxic anyone has a chance to get addicted, i call it legal robbery 

 
Posted : 3rd July 2023 11:18 am
Chris.UK
(@chris-uk)
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@3sued1atlh Can you go to a Gambler’s Anonymous meeting? You will find help and support and people who know exactly what you are going through.

Chris.

 
Posted : 3rd July 2023 11:36 am
(@q86r2ugj5p)
Posts: 1990
 

Hi

Like most people I went back and forth to gambling even while attending meetings.

It is important to keep going to meetings, it is a life saver.

The people in the recovery program would help me understand that my addictions and obsessions were a form of escape from my feelings and emotions.

Each time I went back to gambling I got to understand what my last emotional trigger was.

For me my emotional triggers were my pains I could not heal, my fears I could not reduce or face, my  frusdtrations were due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my feelings of loneliness and my fears of emotional intimacy, and my feelings of boredom because I could not be productive with my time.

By me being in the recovery program would save me from causing my self lots of pains and fears.

For me hiding was due to my many pains causing many fears in me.

If you stick with the recovery program would save your self from more pains and help you work through relationship related problems.

Your honesty is your strength.

Living in fears and telling yourself lies is not very healthy.

Money will not heal your pains.

For me being in the recovery program would help me get more honest with myself. 

For me being in the recovery program would help me heal the hurt iinner child in me.

The therapies would help me live a healthy life with out my addictions and obsessions.

My therapies would help me live a healthy life with out fears disabling me.

My therapies would help me live a healthy life with more honesty in my life and more healthy intimacy.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

 
Posted : 3rd July 2023 3:51 pm

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