Hi.
I'm Angie. A middle aged lady living with my partner, our2 young kids and a cat.
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I've been here before. Maybe 15 years ago or so.Â
My problem isn't solely gambling. It goes hand in hand with booze.
I have periodic binges where I drink too much, then spend way beyond my means. Feel absolutely abismal. Hurt those around me. Start to do better, then trip again.
This has gone on so long it's just become who I am. My opinion of myself is lower than low. I'm so worried and depressed. My relationship is at breaking point. But my last relapse was only 4 days ago.
I know it gets a little better. I need help to keep it better.
I'm awaiting an appointment for talking therapy/cbt - hoping that can help.
In the mean time I'm just trying to not worry about money, be a better parent and try to rebuild bridges with my partner of ten years. Can that even be done when I've destroyed all trust?
I hope by some miracle it can. I know he's only still here for the children at this point- that in itself is so sad.
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So yeah,
Hello.
The Question is do u want to change, you cant change on a negative mindset nor can you change peoples opinions of you, you have make your mind stronger, it doesnt matter what u have done you could be the worst s**m on earth but if you really want to change you have forgive yourself and do something about it simple nothing is impossible in this life
Hello Angie,
Welcome to the GamCare forum. I'm really glad you have joined and hope you find the support and encouragement from other members to be helpful.
Many people will relate to gambling after drinking. If you would like support around alcohol misuse, you may wish to speak with your GP. You can also find information on support available at https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/alcohol-misuse/ .Â
I'm sorry you are feeling low at the moment. It sounds like you're taking some really good steps though by accessing talking therapy/CBT. Mind also have lots of mental health resources which you might like to have a look at.
You're also always very welcome to contact us at any time on 0808 8020 133, on our 1:1 Livechat, on WhatsApp or Facebook - we're here 24 hours, and our advisors can talk you through options which can help. Your partner is also welcome to contact us for support, and Relate offer relationship support to couples affected by gambling harm.Â
We also have a free Money Guidance Service whom you are welcome to speak with; you can ask for a referral when speaking with our advisors. You can view their online toolkit at https://www.gamcare.org.uk/self-help/managing-your-money/ .
Please keep posting; we're here for you.
Best wishes,
Sophie
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