Hello!

The Question is do u want to change, you cant change on a negative mindset nor can you change peoples opinions of you, you have make your mind stronger, it doesnt matter what u have done you could be the worst s**m on earth but if you really want to change you have forgive yourself and do something about it simple nothing is impossible in this life

Hello Angie,

Welcome to the GamCare forum. I'm really glad you have joined and hope you find the support and encouragement from other members to be helpful.

Many people will relate to gambling after drinking. If you would like support around alcohol misuse, you may wish to speak with your GP. You can also find information on support available at https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/alcohol-misuse/ . 

I'm sorry you are feeling low at the moment. It sounds like you're taking some really good steps though by accessing talking therapy/CBT. Mind also have lots of mental health resources which you might like to have a look at.

You're also always very welcome to contact us at any time on 0808 8020 133, on our 1:1 Livechat, on WhatsApp or Facebook - we're here 24 hours, and our advisors can talk you through options which can help. Your partner is also welcome to contact us for support, and Relate offer relationship support to couples affected by gambling harm. 

We also have a free Money Guidance Service whom you are welcome to speak with; you can ask for a referral when speaking with our advisors. You can view their online toolkit at https://www.gamcare.org.uk/self-help/managing-your-money/ .

Please keep posting; we're here for you.

Best wishes,

Sophie

Forum Admin 

Hi

Thank you for sharing.

Our honesty is a big part of our healing.

I was going back to gambling also.

In time I got more invested in to to my recovery and healing.

There have been many people that swop one addiction for another back and forth it was just people escaping in different ways.

Having unhealthy self destructive habits made me feel absolutely abismal weak inept inadequate and very insecure.

In time I got to understand that my addictions and obsessions were a form of self abuse.

The people in the recovery prgram would help me take up much healthier habits.

The people in the recovery prgram will help you understand that you are no longer on your own.

The opinion of my self was very poor.

I would also say that there were times I hated my self. 

My worries were my fears due t pains I could not heal.

I felt so depressed because I felt I had no value in my self. 

The people in the recovery prgram would help me understand that I was just emotionally vulnerable.

That going to my addictions and obsessions was a form of escape from my feelings and my emotions.

Having 4 days clean is a healthy tstart.

By me being in the recovery prgram helped me abstain, yet would also help me exchange some of my unhealthy habits in to healthy habits. 

Having a more fuller life and writing down my needs my waants and my goals helped me in so many ways. 

Yes I also hurt those around me yet I was also causing my self pains and my stress that was not healthy.

Having therapy treatment was helpful yet  by attending recovery meetings and giving therapie there would reduce my fears which then made therapy with counsellor easier.

By me being in the recovery program helped me reduce my fears and my trust grew with sharing.

Invest as much time and energy in your recovery will speed up your recovery.

In time you will heal the hurt inner child in you.

Also live your life with out fears disabling you.

Dave L