Good Evening,
I write to you as I currently have a "pending bet" so I am still an active gambler, I feel as though I am being held against my will.
I am 25 years of age, I started gambling when I was 18 like everyone small stakes, used to feel as bad as I do now losing £10 (well i thought i did). Now I am betting 200/300 at a time. I was in debts of approx 15k, managed to stop gambling for 6 months on and off and got my debt to a manageable amount. However I am now back to where I was two years ago in debt of 12k.
My problem lies my family, girlfriend etc presume I have lots of savings due to certain circumstances however this is not the case. I have a good job, girlfriend, hobbies however I am losing all these gradually as a result of gambling.
I am not going to lie, i love the ups and downs of gambling however it is putting me deeper and deeper into a depressive state of mind. I do have thoughts of suicide when I lose, but i dont see this as my realistic way out however I am running out of options. I have been to GA meetings on and off but never really took to them. Everyone I speak to says this is my only option but surely there is other ways to stop gambling.
I NEED help, and I have came here for it. Nobody knows about my gambling other than strangers. I want this to stay the case for now till I get a little better however maybe one of these strangers or one of you guys could help me or point me in the right direction.
My girlfriend expects me to have 10-15k saved for us to move in together and start a family with a realistic (in her eyes) within a year. Due to my gambling and continuing to gamble this wont happen, and at this rate 1 year?? It might never happen.
Trust me pal I no how you feel I'm 24 years old and probably in roughly the same ammount of debt that you are - all thanks to gambling , as I sit here now I don't have a penny to my name and I got paid a months wages just the other day I feel terrible and don't now what to do ! If I were you I would tell your girlfriend everything and your parents - trust me pal it's worth it , I told my mum everything all the debt I was in , it's hard I no but they will understand they won't abandon you there your family all they will do is help you and give you the kick up your a**e you need , as for me my mums helped me a lot although I'm still on off gambling it feels good that someone knows . Anyway good luck in your recovery pal
Tipsy9 wrote:
Trust me pal I no how you feel I'm 24 years old and probably in roughly the same ammount of debt that you are - all thanks to gambling , as I sit here now I don't have a penny to my name and I got paid a months wages just the other day I feel terrible and don't now what to do ! If I were you I would tell your girlfriend everything and your parents - trust me pal it's worth it , I told my mum everything all the debt I was in , it's hard I no but they will understand they won't abandon you there your family all they will do is help you and give you the kick up your a**e you need , as for me my mums helped me a lot although I'm still on off gambling it feels good that someone knows . Anyway good luck in your recovery pal
Thanks mate... If you have a chance can you jump into the chat room?
Hi there, im also on a crazy journey. ive been gambling since i was 16 but got addicted around 3-4 years back in which i have done everything you can think of stolen, sold drugs to feed my gambling addiciton i am due in to rehab on the 13th of next month in london at gordan moody, the above comment is definetly correct you have to tell your family and girlfriend remeber there love you no matter what you do! ive spent over £100k on gambling and i stole £70000 off my family i have ruined a relationship with my dad, we havent spoken for two years which hurts me of course. my mum is as good as gold she supports me but maybe a little to much as she constantly is bailing me out! the rent is always paid so she doesnt allow me to hit rock bottom where i cant eat or pay for my rent im still gambling on weekends lost most my wages this weekend just gone chasing my money as per usual. We have to be honest with ourselves and honest with other people, we both no that we will lie through our teeth to avoid our family findig out where we have been all day... in order for us to beome problem free we have to man up and tell people about our problems and be honest with ourselves. hope this has helped a little. Tom
Hi,
Story doesnt sound too unlike mine in the sense my gf and i have been together a couple of years and like all women she has a plan in life and what she wants out off it and i kept putting it off and putting it off. She thought i was doing it because i didnt love her but really i was just trying to buy myself some time and thats all i did. I have then told her everything and we know have a new plan, maybe it wasnt the one she originally wanted in the time she wanted it but were in it together i feel a weight off my shoulders.
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