Hi im in need of help. I hate myself soo much 🙁 i gamble morning day and night. I cant think of a day that went by i havent thought about gambling or actually not gambled in the last year there might be 1 but i cant remember it. The last 2 weeks i totally blown loads away and i feel right depressed about it. Last sunday was the focus point i sat and lost a whole 1K and i was drunk at the time which i can tell anyone DONT DO IT just wish i could tell myself that. Tonight i stood a good chance of winning a huge sum of money in a tournament but just at the last minute had it grabbed from me. That money would have set things straight but no i got knocked down yet again. I won ВЈ100 runners up prize but no i had to go throw that away didnt i i got it gambled it to ВЈ200 and then lost the lot why didnt i just call it quits, i doubled up that would have seen me through to payday. I am in active councelling but just dont see how its helping me. My parents tell me that it takes two to beat this and im not doing enough and there right im not. Its not fun anymore and i am in huge debt probably £35000 only 5000 of that or a little more is due to gambling. When i get paid all my money is owed out to like 20 or soo different credit cards iv been to see a financial advisor in a bank they agreed that i have credit card addiction they didnt even offer me a loan for once a bank makes the right decision. Iv phoned up the cccs and iv got the paper work here i feel that, is probably the only best option i can make and try to get my life back, Once iv declared all my debt and froze all my cards i cant get myslef into this mess again.
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hi tubs
been wondering where you are and how you have been doing.
sorry to hear from you under these circumstances.
i am wondering if it isnt time for you to think about contacting Gordon House and thinking about their 9 month residential programme??
http://www.gordonhouse.org.uk/
take care, and thinking warmly of you
today is a good day, and i am living every moment to my full potential
Hi to everyone, sorry if this is a repeated message, I posted (or tried to post) a message sometime last week but for some reason it did not go up on the site.
I'm a 24 yr old guy that is feeling very positive about stopping gambling, my story may be a little different to everyone else's as I'm not 100% sure as t whether I am in the norm of problem gambling. Ok I do not have any control over my gambling and have lost thousands firstly on fruit machines, then the dreaded roulette and now on poker (seems standard for the gambling ladder). The only thing I have noticed about my gambling is that I do not have a problem when I'm abroad.
I live and work in mainland Europe or have done for the past year and I will happily take myself to places where I have no opportunity of gambling whatsoever yet I don't find this prospect daunting in any way, I will also not feel any need to gamble while abroad even when I have access to casinos, online gambling, fruit machines or anything at all.
When I return home I feel an immense pressure from family and friends to work etc and I do not feel happy at all. So I have come to the conclusion that it is happiness that keeps me away from gambling and depression that pulls me right back into the trap. I've just moved back to England with my girlfriend, I have quit smoking, started an intense training regime set by my physio and I am not going to gamble anymore, quitting smoking seems easy in comparison to stopping gambling (anyone who wants to quit I recommend Allen Carr's easy way to quit smoking) because there is more of a definite line with it, you either don't smoke a cig or you do smoke a cig, I find that with stopping gambling for me anyway, there isn't that definite line, e.g. you might have a spare pound after buying shopping and think well one scratch card wont harm, but then is this me giving into my addiction or is that acceptable for a problem gambler, ok what about lotto, why do I have to buy 10 lines and think about my ticket from the moment I bought it to the moment the draw has finished yet if I don't play roulette, bandits or poker I kid myself into thinking that I don't have a problem.
I'd like to write more but I'd bore you and I don't have time right now. Thanks for reading
Hi 2much2loose and everyone, I have also had trouble posting a message so that is why I have posted here.
I am a 57 yr old boy but my story is not that different from yours as I lived abroad for a long time and did not have problems with gambling then.
I did gamble heavily in my youth but always in the bookies on horses and football but drew back when losses got too high. Abroad i gambled very little,got married and settled down then things went wrong ,got divorced and came back to UK. Since then in 6 years I have tried to gamble my way out of my cash problems and have achieved the opposite- horses, dogs, sport betting online and in bookies I have run up debts of 19k and spent probably twice that much. My brother and sister found out and got me to sign a family contract to pay household bills and keep from starting into the family house to finance gambling. I have had some success with this but when I give in to the urge to get back some of what I have lost I get straight back into frantic chasing losses situation and gamble everything i can lay my hands on. I have two kids abroad and kept up payments and visits up to three years ago when pressure ojf debts got too much to keep up so now there is very little contact adding to my feelings of shame and makijng clear thinking even more difficult. I know what I should be doing but it is very difficult to see normal income solving my problem so the temptation for a miracle one bet accummulator to solve all is always there leading to....can anyone help me get out ojf this spiral.
It sounds lijke you are on the right course of action 2much2loose keep up with other interests and off the gambling ladder I wish I had earlier.
think you right although hate to admit this to myself , happiness pushes you away from gambling and depression pushes you towards gambling, I think that was a question of my own without realising it until now , that's it then I need to make my life happy then I stand a chance of stopping gambling, although obviously still need to manage the addiction as don't want to let my/our guard down . regarding the lottery scratch card ye do not buy one they give you the urge to gamble on other things . regarding a lottery ticket weirdly I also cannot stop thinking about it from when I buy one , as I do buy a lucky dip only 1 each week , but like not to check it straight away and dream of what I could do buy if I were to win, although am I a hipocrit and just kidding myself saying don't buy a scratch card but ok to buy a ticket ? I don't know maybe I still need some kind of chance to financially win. weird aswell when I took my son on holiday abroad I did not think of online roulette not once , but got back in England, plane landed took my son back to his moms one hour later on computer online gambling unbelievable , any way you can beat this and so can I just thought ide let you know your not on your own with the way you thinking . thanks simon
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