Hello all,
I have finally reached a point where I admit I have a problem. September last year I started an IVA after getting myself into massive debt due to gambling. At the beginning, it was small but I ended up chasing loses and ended up nearly bankrupt. My girlfriend did not know I was gambling until I had no more money to waste. She stood by me on the fact I would stop and seek help. I did not as I believed all was going to be ok, that was September. Then in February I gambled away my rent as I was sure I could recoup my losses. This again nearly broke us but I was able to get money to pay the rent but still increasing my debt and promised I won’t be so stupid again. I have never been very good with money, I feel I am too optimistic and like the idea of potentially not owing money and being able to spend without worrying constantly about money so I keep going back with the hope that this time will be different, I will walk away if I lose but no I hang onto some bleak idea that I will win, I will get my money back but no all, gone.
This brings me to today. Last week I did it again, I had some money that I was meant to spend on that week’s food shopping but thought, it’s ok I will use it to make money. Boom, gone, still convinced I lied to my girlfriend in order to "borrow" money thinking I would be able to "fix" it but no as expected I lost it all again. I am now at a point where my girlfriend has left to give me a chance to get actual help and I have nothing but my embarrassment and self-loathing for my actions. How could I be so stupid. Hopefully this time will be different and I will now actually stop and fix my life before I lose my family, friends, partner and career.
Hi J4ck,
Welcome to the Forum. When gambling, one can really lose touch with reality and it takes a shock to snap you back into it. At least now you can see gambling for what it is, a problem and not a solution to your financial situation.
I am wondering if you are planning on getting any help because relying only on will power is going to be extremely difficult. Of course, using this Forum space can be very helpful too and I hope you continue to do so and get a lot of support from other members. However, I would also encourage you to get in touch with GamCare and talk to an adviser about your options and things that can help you stick to your recovery. Our lines are open from 8am until midnight.
Warm wishes,
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