Hit rock bottom

Hi bcm & welcome 🙂

That's not a good position to be in & I have no suggestion regarding the rent I'm afraid (Duncanmac's diary will be one to read I believe) but what I will say is you need to eat. There are food banks in most areas & you will need to speak to your local authority about being referred to one ASAP. I don't know how old your daughter is but recycling (upcycling I think it is called now) some clothing or an old piece of furniture if you have a needle & thread/paint may be a way to make sure she gets a present & a treasure hunt for things in the park is a very inexpensive day out to organise!

If you have other family members you can speak to, let them know you have a problem & need help but don't let them bail you out as this is a green light for us to carry on as we are, not getting help. Phoning the helpline, getting to a GA meeting may be things you can do tomorrow.

There's only one way to go from the bottom & it's gonna be hard but you can do it, time you start climbing out of that hole you are in - ODAAT

Thanks my daughter is 21 but good ideas . I believe or not work for local authority so would be a situation where I could ask for a food bank voucher as I'm the one usually giving them out . I feel better than last night but that's because I have a job and I need to focus on work today

Just reading through other people's posts I should of joined this forum ages ago . Looking forward to a weekend with my bf . I never gamble if I'm with him anyway even though we have no money we just love being with each other so have a good weekend every one and resist the temptation , I need you all to support me through this !

4 days and I stopped smoking yesterday . Spoke to council about court and we have made a achievable payment agreement . I have took all the right steps and I'm never going back in that hole again ! Determined !

Keep strong bcm, I understand every feeling you are / have experiened. I have been gambling for longer than I care to remember. I've tried / failed to give upon so many occasions I find i difficult to say I won't again, but it feels different this time. I haven't had a bet in 8 days and just taking it 1 day at a time. I promise myself every morning I wake that I won't bet. Find it easier looking in the short term. I was referred to counsellors by Gamcare yesterday and I am awaiting an appointment for 12 free 1 to 1 sessions. I'm looking forward to them as I have never had the courage (Or I suppose, desire) to attend one before. 2 weeks and determined not to have a bet in this period. 1 day at a time. Take care.

Hi bcm so sorry your going through such a bad time, just wanted to wish you well im only day 2 and so glad found this forum, best of wishes

Thanks all , court tomorrow X I cannot gamble ever again , I am determined . I may have took my lucky chances when gambling but this is my real chance to have a good life and have money to do nice things (eventually ) with my bf . I have been coming on here every day reading posts and it has helped me X thanks all x

Hello bcm1511 and welcome to the forum.

I can see from your post you have taken positive actions to help yourself with closing your gambling accounts and agreeing achievable payments for your rent with the council.

There is other support available as spoken about here by lookingforchange . There is free counselling available and you can have up to 12 sessions of counselling. If you would like to know more about this support you can call the helpline 0n 0808 8020 133 and helpline advisors will be happy to help you find your nearest counselling service. You can also contact advisors through the net line http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/netline#.VEEdJvldXww

There is also other safeguards you can use for online gambling sites please see here for information on blocking software

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do/blocking-software#.VBwD8fldXww

Keep posting we are here to support you.

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Court over and done with . Such a relief they accepted my budget plan . This is going to be a hard month without any money but my taking back control . No betting for 6 days and I'm not missing it one bit . Battling more with not smoking which is a harder habit for me than gambling ever was . Please keep sending the possible messages , I keep it to keep going strong , the forum is really helping me . Let's do this everyone !

Glad thats over with for you, its onwards and upwards now, its going to be a struggle but Rome wasnt built in a day, keep with it, Im a new gambler myself - only six months - and not lost lots but ive lost enough,,all these cautionary tales help me to , i trying to quit before it takes over

Thanks x

I've done a week feeling really good at moment , got to keep strong x

Hi bcm I'm at the start of my journey too and getting myself back together, reading your thread helps me too 🙂 oh and try a vape best thing I ever did xx

I'm using a cape on day 5 now ! Time for changes just hope I'm not attempting too much at once . Let's help each other