How do i stop

Hi Will.

Welcome to the forum and I hope you will now reach out for all the help on offer.

You are now in a very confused state and under the grip of a full blown addiction. You are clutching at chargebacks and in your mind now you are at a stage where really you just want to stop losing.

Its the same as me desperately feeling the coin tray before having to leave. The money has gone and yes thats what you did with it. Its not actually a get it back later scheme that the gambling dens are running

At your stage the money becomes secondary and you cant stop so gambling is not for you. You became addicted to the escape and the emotional feelings the mind craves. As you say you wont really know why you do it because you have a lot to learn about mind control and the way the brain works for its own cravings

You must let it go and enter full recovery. You need to focus that gambling will ruin you and take you to new depths you havent considered yet.

When you face this and start to see life in a new way it makes you a better person being gamble free.

There is help with counselling and the help is all around you when you seek it. With proper blocks and monitoring you will heal

Please ring gamcare and I hope that you may be able to tell people close to you

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Thanks for the reply, my family already know. As you probably know its also ruining there lives. Stealing and borrowing money i can never payback. I have 3 children and can see this is having affect on them (new clothes etc)

Im worried that when the banks starts taking the money back from my account its going to start me again. I dont seem to deal with pressure. I tell myself your a mug your never going to win, but i stil do it! My partner now has all my bankcards, and i have self resricted off all websites i have used.

Hopefully this is the start of the rest of my life!

Great but you will have to face that the money will be taken back by the banks because there is no basis for a fraud claim.

You deal with this with full therapy and realising that money has gone.Thats what you did with it under the grip of an addiction so the sooner you become calmer the better.

You really need a born again moment realising that you and your family are most important. Thinking about money and th past will only make you ill and prone to thinking the bookie will hand it back when you gamble. Problem gamblers like myself could never handle the losing as if I wouldnt believe losing was an option. I mainly played for escape because I was stressed and clinically depressed

It wont start you again if you have a full support network. Get some financial advice from the CAB and financial advisors

Your partner will need your bank cards for a long time so I trust you are ready to recover. You and your family must never be complacent or casual about this.

The way through this is being born again to whats important and not worrying about money so it makes you ill. You will also realise that money isnt everything at our level. There comes a point where your mental health is the main thing and not trying to provide everything you cant afford. If you live for material possessions it will eat your soul

When you have stopped gambling things have a way of falling into place.

Best wishes from everyone on the forum