I have P****d away so much money over the last month.
I keep trying to stop but can’t. I lost a few hundred quid and have been chasing to get it back, but in doing so have lost a few thousand.
Iv recently given up my old life. I lived in another country and moved to be with a woman I love and have a family.
I gave up a job I love and a quiet non entity of a life. For love I suppose.
but I panicked thinking I could never buy a house again. And have no idea what I’m actually doing.
im completly lost. I actually feel so confused. I’m so so happy with my new life. But miss my job and not being chaotic.
So I made the decision to move. But am surrounded by really successful people. Iv no job yet. And feel so inadequate.
So a few nights when my partners gone to bed. Iv lied and said I’m reading or watching somtjing. And tried to win money to support us.Â
but the more Iv lost. The more Iv tried to win it back.
I was gonna try and get a loan and gamer to try amd win the money back. But Iv a feeling that might hit be a great idea.
Iv got very very little money left. I had to stop myself from wasting that.
but I did. I stopped.
I just need to cop on. I wish I hadn’t done it in the first place. But I have.
I struggle with sleep. And this isn’t helping really.
do I just wanted to write this. Caus I need to stop. I have to stop. It’s gonna destroy my soul if I don’t.
Hi NewDad,
Welcome to the forum.
I am sorry to learn of your situation. However bad it may seem gambling can make it so much worse. Making the decision to stop now will be the best decision you ever make.
You can recover from where you are now. You’ve make a brave and exciting change to your life. You will find a new job and you will have a super life. Give yourself the best chance at realising this.
Gambling can get progressively worse and it can destroy the best of dreams. So, realise where you are and that this can be fixed but it has to happen now.
I wish you well. Take care.
RR
Hi Newdad,
I agree with everything that Roulette Regret has said. As the partner of a compulsive gambler, I wish more than anything that he had told me earlier on.Â
He did what you suggested and took out a loan to try and win back the losses, but in reality that never works long term and only makes the debt spiral.Â
I would urge you to consider coming clean to your partner. I know you will see this as a risk but you need support with this. It will also be so much better that she hears it from you as opposed to finds out herself.Â
I wish you all the best.Â
MorganÂ
OK NewDadÂ
You've hit the nail on the head - if it carries on, it certainly will be destructive.
Stop now at all costs and never look back. Sound hard? Well yes it is, but it is the only way, repeat ONLY way. Someone gave me this advice 20 years ago and it took me until last year to finally realise that any other way of thinking is futile for a CG.
You can do this.
All the best, James
I told my partner. And she’s been so supportive.
Iv put Gamban in all my devices. Amd given my bank cards to my partner. I know I’m an idiot and have no control over this.
sjesbeen spectacular and really supportive. I’m not gonna let her down. I’m going to do this.
Good luck mate nothing is easy in life but life is precious and it is a whole lot more forfulling with gamblingÂ
Without gambling that was meant to be sorry guys
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