I am just so angry with it all. The full extent of my husband's gambling problem is slowly coming to light. I was aware last September that he had been online gambling, it came out after finding an application for a CC, along with bank statements.(he has been using his buisness account) He said that he had it under control and it was his hobby. But now coupled with alcohol the losses are mounting up, about £500 a month, Thats just of the statements ive found.
I booked us in for a counselling session but 3 hours before the appointment he said he had recovered!
I am just so angry with it all, angry for being angry, angry with him, angry for being so naieve. Why? Is it my fault? He has always been a heavy drinker, but now I'm finding empty cans hidden in different bins, to make it look like he isnt drinking as much, and also hiding beer in his car.
Is it ok to feel like this?
Hi mindo, I'm also a compulsive gambler don't blame yourself I have put my partner through what you are going through many times and its not your fault.
Gambling turns is into things we are not and makes us do things we would never do its so hard to explain and people who don't gamble say just stop but its not that easy. We don't mean to hurt our loved ones but we do because your close, I'm sure your husband wants to stop you just need to be really strict, I know it's hard and things get in the way but its sink or swim time.
As for the drinking I didn't drink a lot but I did it to forget about things now and then maybe this is a form of escape for your husband to get away from the mess gambling has caused, this also needs addressing as the two will fuel each other.
Be strong and good luck......ste26
Hi I'm the same been gamberling for about 6 years and put my family through hell I love them to bits but I just can't help myself I'm trying my best to stop now and bared myself from the bookies and my wife takes care of all the money now so me and my family can have a better life. You need to take care of the money and get him to come on here as it helps lots and the is aways someone to talk to. I'm looking forward to a bet free summer and have some money to spend on the kids. But you need to take control of the money if he don't have money he can't gamble. Good luck and all the best
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